This is an ongoing discussion in our house. I always said I wanted 3, DH wanted 2. Well, our twins are now 3 1/2, and I've been wanting another child since they turned one. Actually, as soon as they were born, I was saying I still wanted another (now you all know how crazy I am!) But because we have a boy and a girl, DH just doesn't see the point in having another child. He is an only child and a very spoiled one at that. He wants to be able to give our kids eveything they want- cars, paying for their college, etc. Even if we can afford that, I don't think we should do it!! He just sees another child as taking away from the kids we have, not adding anything to the family. I want another child so so bad, but just can't convince him. We're both 30, so technically we still have time, but I always said I wanted to be done having my kids by the time I was 30. Plus, we have a 3 bedroom house, so somebody would be sharing a room. The further apart in age the kids are, the harder that would be I feel, so I really wouldn't want to wait much longer. ~SIGH~ It's just so hard!

DH wanted 3 when we were dating. I told him that if that was really what he wanted, he was with the wrong girl. I said maybe one (and this was coming a long way for me at that time). After were were married for 5 years DD came along (planned). I was done having babies. Then my mom died. I'm an only child and it would have been nice to have someone else to be with me who was where I was in my grief. So I decided I would have another. It took quite a while but DS came around 8 months ago (6 years his sister's jr). No regrets but believe me when I say I am REALLY done this time.

We said we wanted three and I always figured it would be three boys. Well we had DS#1 after being married for five years and DS#2 when the oldest was 4. After having DS#2 our number changed to two - mainly because of our ages but also because this child has about done me in I could write a book with the amount he gets into and the stuff he figures out for himself and he is only 3. I just hope I get him raised to adulthood He is, however, definitely his mommy's boy!

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Heather

All of my life I wanted four to six kids. I grew up in a family of four kids and on my dad's side there were eight kids and nineteen of us grandkids. I just really loved the big family thing. My husband never really thought about it before we met. He lived a hard life and was into some bad things and wasn't really sure he would even get married and have kids. When we started dating he knew I wanted kids and I knew he didn't know what he wanted. We never talked about it. We were very young. I was 16 and he was 18. We dated for almost a year and I got pregnant. We got married and started our life with our new little one on the way. But we still never really talked about it.

Once my daughter turned one he said he didn't want to use proctection anymore (he never liked it) and said if we got pregnant it would be okay since our daughter was a year and we were doing good. I got pregnant that night. He didn't really want anymore kids after that. But I did. And I knew we would have more sooner or later. Then my husband heard that a woman can only get pregnant one day out of a month. So on our anniversary he said he didn't want to use any protection and if I hit that one day and got pregnant it was meant to be. I did. I got pregnant with my younger three kids right around first birthdays of the youngest at the time.

After baby four was born he was done. No changing his mind. Honestly he would love to have another baby. But he says babies grow into kids that talk back and run around. I would love to have more children. But in answer to the original question, we never talked about how many kids we would have.

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Jenifer
Proud wife to one amazing man
Proud mom to four awesome kids

Have a safe and blessed New Year!

This is so my youngest!!!! God knew better than to give him to me first...I wouldn't have had more. He is into EVERYTHING!! The stories I could tell you all. Oh my goodness.

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Jenifer
Proud wife to one amazing man
Proud mom to four awesome kids

Have a safe and blessed New Year!

I've always wanted three, two boys and a girl. My husband agreed before we got married and then somehow changed to two after our two boys were born. I wanted one more and when my boys were six and eight he finally agreed and we had our little girl. Even though I'm content with with my kids, I still have the desire for another baby. I love being a mom! I'm too old now, but I think if I were married to someone who wanted ten I probably would have!

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All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother- Abraham Lincoln

We never really talked about a number, but maybe we should have. I am a only child (and love it) so I only wanted one and my dh is the baby of his family (his sister is 15 yr older and brother 10 yr older) so he wanted more than one. We had dd and I was "done", but he was not. So when dd was 2 1/2 I started to rethink things well ds was born right after dd turned 6. We had alot of infertiity issues. Well now dh is "talking" about having #3. I am yet to be convinced (partly due to the infertility issues). So I guess we will see.
I was pg with ds when dd started kindergarten and now ds is starting kindergarten in the fall and dh is talking about another. LOL

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Loving Life

I have struggled with this question for a while. Hubby never wanted any, but settled on one, then two...lol and would have let me have the third if I wanted to. To tell you the truth, I think our family size might be perfect. I have a 5 year old boy and 2 year girl. We have soccer practice, games, gymnastics and MDO. I am not sure I can handle another as I do not know how we can to the activities with all three. I would love one, but I think it would start to get out of hand as I like the kids being involved with activities. It is just important to me . My girl has not really begun to do much either, since she is to young. Guess I will see what God has planned for me. I am just not ready to make it final yet....

We're blessed with two wonderful children. However, we "planned" to have three but after the difficulties with our last child (took awhile for us to conceive, it was a high-risk pregnancy, had to have an emergency c-section with an awful recovery, etc.) we just praised God for what He gave us.

Our two kids are wonderful, but they can be a challenge. I guess God knew that was all we could handle!

If DS#2 had been born first he would probably have been an only child

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Heather