vent away..we have been there ((((( )))))...do not feel guilty about a few minutes in the computer...a bit of sanity time is so good for you.

You're definitely not alone. I think just about every mom has been there at some point. Feel free to vent here anytime.

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You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

We all need some "me time" to be better people.

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Michele

Have you sat down with your husband to talk to him about how you're feeling? You mentioned that he "wouldn't" help. Maybe you need to hit him between the eyes with some of your own tears of frustration to show him just how much you need him. Maybe he's so used to seeing you handle everything, that he's not making much effort because he thinks you don't really need the help.

I basically told my husband to grow up, take some responsibility or go back to live with his mother.

Well, we're still married...and happily. I guess he didn't want to lose me. Oh, and I'm still a SAHM (15 years now)!

I've got 'em all trained. At 8:00 every night, the crew goes from room to room to clean up their own messes. I refuse to deal with it anymore...or else they can all go live with his mother!

More women should take this advice!
There is no way in heck I would put up with a man that refused to help with his own children, or the household. Their jobs end at a certain time of day, a Mother's doesn't.....they can contribute or pay child support after the divorce.

Oh, I've been there myself many times with the Mommy burnout! I agree with all the pps who have said don't feel guilty at all for taking time for yourself, even if you have to hire a baby sitter to do it. I always tell myself a babysitter is cheaper than therapy!

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We all definately have been there at one time or another. I went through a really bad time a few years back, my dh saw how bad I was, and I let loose on him. Since then, my kids do the dishes every other night, take out the trash every day, and each vacuum a level on the weekends. That has helped so much for me. Now I totally agree with talking to your dh. He needs to see how you really feel. Cry if you need to, it usually works on the dh! lol
As for destressing in general, here are some of the things I do here to help myself to get through hard times: Wear some headphones and listen to your favorite music, it really helps me disconnect! Go out for a walk by yourself or with your child, and look for different parks in your area. I like to name the parks and we take off when the weather is nice. It really changes things up a bit getting out during the day. I like to garden too.
Spring is a great time of the year to start going out and enjoying the weather. I don't know if you have the winter weather like we do, but we usually are all crabby and anxious for Spring! We're still waiting for Spring, it was so coldddd today!
Good luck with this! Just remember you have so many people to talk to, you are never alone! PM me if you want to, too!

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Daycare mom

Actually, my dh just went to bed. He was asking me why in the world I stay up at night and do this online. He just does not understand that this is the only time I can have to myself during the entire day. I am tired at night, but if I don't stay up and do something for myself, then I get NO time all day long, day after day. It does get rough. I have 2 boys and they just wear me out every day. I don't think anyone truly understands except us mommies At least we have each other, right?????????