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Old 04-23-2008, 07:19 PM   #1
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The "hardest thing about being a SAHM" got to me. I am suffering from a severe case of mommy burnout. Ugh. DS, who will be turning 5 soon, has a major attitude problem lately. When he's home from school I feel like all I do is argue with him and put him in timeout. The housework piles up and DH never helps, even though I ask him. I'm so tired at night from taking care of DS, and I watch my friend's 2 year old twins 3 days a week too. All I wanted to do was come up stairs and go on-line for a few minutes, but DH keeps bothering me and making little comments. He has no idea what I go through every day. Don't get me wrong, I love being a SAHM. It's just that I'm worn out. I can't go out because I just end up at stores and spend money we don't have. I've been trying to organize a girls night out, but so far it hasn't panned out. Now I feel guilty for spending time alone on-line and should go back to the family room to hang out with my guys. Thanks for listening to me vent.
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Old 04-23-2008, 07:23 PM   #2
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I think we've all been there -- vent away!
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Old 04-23-2008, 07:23 PM   #3
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Bless bless bless you mama. You need a little rest and respite...and don't feel guilty about it. You are a better mama when you have had some YOU time. Even just a little on-line or whatever. Don't feel guilty.
Here's hoping to your "Girl's Night" working out!
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Old 04-23-2008, 10:00 PM   #4
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Old 04-23-2008, 11:12 PM   #5
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I feel like I could have written what you posted! It seems like many of us have been there. It was very challenging for me when my dd's were both little and at home. No family nearby either. I found a mom's support group through the hospital's community education program and made many friends there. From that large hospital group, other groups formed . . . playgroups, stroller walking groups, babysitting co-op, investment club, etc. It's been 11 years, and I still see some of these mom-friends monthly at Bunko.

Other moms really, really helped me keep my sanity (still do!). Don't feel guilty about needing some alone time. I'm a better mom when I get some rest and time to myself. How can I give to my children when I feel drained? I don't know about you, but I can't!
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Old 04-24-2008, 08:22 AM   #6
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Whenever I feel this way, I wrongly compare myself to others - thinking every other mother has it all under control and I'm some terrible person. We all have our limits and breaking points.

Even if it's just for an hour, try getting some time alone. Get out of the house - go sit at a bookstore and read, you don't have to spend money! That little time alone will refresh you, clear away some stress, and allow you some much-needed down time. When you come home more relaxed and calm, maybe then DH will realize how much you needed it.

Remember: AIN'T MAMA HAPPY, AIN'T NOBODY HAPPY!
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Old 04-24-2008, 09:24 AM   #7
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I could've written your post!! Thank goodness the weather is getting nicer so I can get outside.

I hope it gets better for you soon {hugs}.
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Old 04-24-2008, 10:49 AM   #8
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I know how you feel about mommy burnout. I am very hard on myself. I don't do anything for me it's all for the kids and the house and the DH.
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Old 04-24-2008, 12:22 PM   #9
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Don't feel like you are alone, we all have it at one time or another. Things to get better, it doesn't seem like it at the moment, but they do and it's ok to vent!!
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Old 04-24-2008, 12:26 PM   #10
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you are not alone. I feel like this alot. It can be so overwhelming with my 3 kids so I truly understand (((HUGS)))
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