IMO I would say that's a really extreme case and that kind of behavior is just ignorant. I have never seen anything like that at any wedding I have attended and they all served alcohol. Responsible adults can have a drink and still be respectful of the event.

I planning on nat having any alcohol at my wedding. MAYBE some wine for supper, but that's a big maybe.

My fiance and I rarely drink, and we never get drunk, but we both have some relatives that like to "partay". I'm not paying for people to get drunk and party. I'm paying for people to join us in celebrating our wedding. NOT GT DRUNK.

The whole "good hostess" thing is stupid. If people were at my house they wouldn't be drinking, so why would they get to drink on my dime at our wedding. No way. Not that we have that dime to spend on alcohol. We are paying for our wedding ourselves, no money from parents, so I'm not wasting it on alcohol which will get people drunk which will ruin my wedding. There's no value in it for me. Also I really don't want to buy the Special Occasions permit. lol

It all depends on the crowd and the families.
In the several dozen wedding I've been to, the open bar was a disaster.
My personal favorite was the one with the bride falling out of her chair drunk and passing out in the hotel lobby, spending her wedding night laying on a couch next to the elevators. But this was a classy professional group (seriously).
The bride and groom need to do what they think is right.

we didnt have any alcohol at our wedding or at the party two weeks later.

Wow, if I would have been to the weddings that you all have mentioned, I don't know that I would have had alcohol at mine, either! Yikes!

This kind of hurt my feelings. You are more than free to voice your opinion, but could you please refrain from calling someone else's idea stupid in the future? I'm not trying to start anything, I promise, but I take a lot of pride in the fact that I was a good hostess and I think that comment was a little harsh. Thanks!

Hey, I was wondering. The first poster and a few other people have said that a formal wedding is one without an open bar/alcohol besides a toast. I'm confused a bit by that. I was raised in a very formal family. (not that DH & I are at all!). I went to private schools, coming out balls, etc. My wedding was at my parents country club, sit down dinner, the works. For us a formal wedding is one with an open bar.

Just wondering what most consider a "formal" wedding.

Personally I could care less where it is, outside, VFW hall, etc or if there is alcohol served. I've been to all kinds of weddings and loved them all...well almost all. Ha!

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I'm from Wisconsin and i think they serve beer with just about anything. I've even been to baptism parties that served beer (at private homes not at the church). I don't drink , don't have a problem with those who drink occasionally but sometimes the amount of celebrations around this small town that involve beer or alcohol is just getting out of hand.

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We had an afternoon wedding, which made it easy to offer only beer or wine, and because of the early reception time, no one really drank much.

[quote=Ritmeyer;711568]Hey, I was wondering. The first poster and a few other people have said that a formal wedding is one without an open bar/alcohol besides a toast. I'm confused a bit by that. I was raised in a very formal family. (not that DH & I are at all!). I went to private schools, coming out balls, etc. My wedding was at my parents country club, sit down dinner, the works. For us a formal wedding is one with an open bar.

Just wondering what most consider a "formal" wedding.

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Ditto here. The very few weddings I've been to w/o an open bar have been for friends or family with very little funds. And, again, I've never seen person get out of control/drunk in over 50 weddings. Some families have problems with alcohol, but most do not, IMO.

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Growing up we had the following choices: Dry (no alcohol), Beer and Wine only - and when it was gone the bar shut down, Beer and Wine open until budget hit and then it was cash bar beer and wine only, Open Bar with budget (same as above), Open Bar til the wedding was over.

I am not a big drinker, so it never bothered me one way or another - I think I was only at one or two weddings where the alcohol got out of control. Generally when you have younger (21-24) guests it tends to be "Oh, free alcohol - cool!".

When I got married we did open bar budget, but we never reached it so it looked like open bar til the end. I had a select group of friends that we always started off our let loose weekends with a shot of tequila. So I ordered them up. The bartender told me "NO, sorry only mixed drinks and no shots". "I told him I was the BRIDE and I told him it was OKAY". I did open pandoras box - because my friends kept doing them. No one got out of control though. I was 28 and most of my fiends were 28-34.

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