I'm talking about a BIG secret -- something that a relative has done, you've found out about or were told about, and this relative doesn't want anyone else in the family to know.

I'm currently keeping 2 secrets for 2 separate family members. I've known about these things for a long time. I hope no one ever gives me any truth serum or WW III will break out in my family!

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I have never told my parents or my sister about my dd's run in with the law and associated problems. I just don't want to deal with it!! I also did not tell my parents or sister I was pregnant the last time until he was almost born. I hate hearing their take on that too!!! Of course they live nowhere near us!

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Yep, and i hate it!

I am always afraid that someone else will find out and they will think that i didn't keep their secret.

Also, some of the secrets, i really wish I didn't know.

And some of the stuff that people ask you to keep a secret are kind of petty and silly, and i have to ask myself why in the world do they want to keep that a secret!!!

I have and I would do it again.

Yes & I don't like doing it, but I have to.

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Yes, but I'm just the sounding board and refuse to be in the middle of things. So I do keep quiet. Sometimes the person who finds out later is mad because I didn't divulge the secret, but that same person comes to me at another time with their own secret, knowing I'd keep it.

I do draw the line, however, on certain things. I won't hide from the family if someone is deathly ill. I may hold off, wanting them to be told directly, but if it's a situation where it will do more harm than good, I will....but I will also let the person know how I feel and why it needs to be opened up. But it depends on the reason...whether the person is just afraid of pity or more afraid of the effect of the news on someone already suffering from their own thing. Depends.

But if it's financial, lips are zipped.

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This sounds like something I would do. My parents are very critical and I know I'd never hear the end of it!

Major ditto on that.

Also, I find keeping big secrets to be somewhat of a burden. It's hard walking around with someone else's baggage.

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No I have never had to keep a big secret.

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Yes. It doesn't bother me as it's the reason for family to lean on.

I've had something kept from my in-laws for my SIL's sake. Even though I'm still so upset with her due to something that happened this past March. I will never release it. That's not the kind of person I am.

As for my family. We are all so open and honest and rude sometimes that no one has a chance on keeping anything from anyone. However my sister and I are the best of friends and have several things we've kept for one another from our family.

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I'm keeping a HUGE family secret so that my SIL won't be embarrassed or ashamed. It's hard though b/c my SIL is a rude/snobby person. I sooo want to tell but I just can't.

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