I have a close relationship with my parents. We live next door to each other ,15 acres apart, still close though. I like the setup a lot and so do they.

The problem is that I seem to make a lot of my decision based on what they will think. I am 36 years old and still feel like I need to please them all the time.

This weekend we got into a fight about my kids....regardless of what it was about, I got really angry at them. My dad and mom took it badly I feel and basicly I hung up on my dad. he had the nerve to say that I because of the way I felt that I could not come to them any more if I need help from them.

I am so upset right now...one little fight and he thinks he has to hold something like that over my head, whatever. basicly I hung up on him and wish I could move!

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Heather
Mom to three dd 14, ds 8, dd 5

Well if you are as close as you say you are I'm sure you both just need some time to cool off. You're family and it sounds like you all love each other very much and that's all that matters.

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I think I'm too close to mine as well. Their opinions about my life mean more to me than they should. Mine live about 15 acres away as well but in suberbia so there are lots of houses and streets between us but it's still close and we talk or see each other daily.

We're considering a cross country move (not to get away from them)... it sure will change the dynamic.

How are things today? These things can take a few days to cool off.

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I feel the same way and I don't know why. I'm almost 40 years old and I still feel like I need to make mom and dad happy. My dh told me he never cared what his parents thought of him. I wish I could be like that. I just feel so confined in life, worrying that my decisions will bring about endless criticism from them.

Perhaps once you've all had some time to cool of, maybe you can sit down and have a calm discussion about the problem.

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When the sun came up this morning I took the time to watch it rise,
as its beauty struck the darkness from the skies.
I thought how small and unimportant all my troubles seem to be,
and how lucky another day belongs to me. ~ Jerry Reed

I am close to my Mom but not my Dad.

I am not close to my mom. I am in TX and she is in NC. We have a strained relationship and being far apart, it's easy to just ignore the issues and go on with your life. I see her once a year but if it were more, I would be pushed to deal with our problems.

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Mom to 4 boys
Justin 13, Tyler 11, Nicholas 6, and Wyatt 3

I live on one side of town and my parents live on the other side of the same town. I usually see them at least 2-3 times a week and talk to my mom every day on the phone. If I don't call her she thinks something is wrong!

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Yes indeed, I am way to close to my whole crazy family. Sometimes I daydream about moving far, far away. But we probably won't ever do it.

I am very close to my parents, I call my mom almost every day. But we live in different states, so there is some distance there. I don't feel the need to please them all the time though, I make my own decisions and stick with them. I do listen to her suggestions and advice, sometimes I take it, sometimes I don't.

I became a lot closer to my parents as I got older. When I was younger, even though in the end, I always wanted to be a "good kid" and impress them and not give them TOO much heartache, I still did the 'teenage' stuff. But as I got older, I became closer and closer to them. Now I talk to them about relationships and other personal stuff going on in my life.

I am sort of the same way with you though - where I feel like I need to impress my mom still, so I understand a little bit where you are coming from. However, you guys are family and will make up eventually, but they do have to understand that they are YOUR kids and not theres. They can feel free to help and give opinions and guidance, but they can't get mad about something.