We are married for 2 years and 2 months already. We agreed to end it. We just do not get along well. He brought up the idea and I agreed. We have a 1 yr old boy. I want a lawyerless divorce so we could save money and lessen the hassle not to get anyone else involved in it. I found an article about having a lawyerless divorce in cheap divorce. Pretty much from the guidelines shown, we sort of qualified for it. But there is one thing that struck me...Better if we have no children. What do you all think? Is this really big thing? My Ex-husband has agreed to give us child support. And I also promised him that he could visit our child. Do you think having a lawyerless divorce is a good idea?

I don't know your situation but what ever you do have it in writing and notarized. Just something that I would be afraid of is not have my child returned to me later down the road. If I had custody. It is just scary thing that I would be worried abotu all the time.

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From my understanding - no problem with having a lawyerless divorce. The important part of the divorce and child support is that they are filed with the court system. You don't need a lawyer to do this and you don't need to see a judge but you do need to file the correct paperwork to make sure it is all legal. Verbal or even written agreements for child support mean NOTHING if they are not filed legally with the court system. Protect yourself and your child for the next 17 years by filing with the courts to make everything legit.

Sorry to hear about your divorce. Even though it sounds like you both agree, it still will not be easy - legally, emotionally, financially . . .

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My husband is a family attorney. He detests the "lawyerless" stuff. Not because of the money, but because of the mistakes they make. I know he does uncontested divorces for around $500 flat fee. You might call around and see if any attorneys will do that for you. You both could split the costs, and be sure all the legalities are taken care of. You need to look out for your childs best interest, don't take anything for granted. A new wife could come into the picture and decide she doesn't want him to pay support. If you have nothing in writing, your child is hosed!! You need a court order for support and visitation.

Do NOT do it with out a lawyer. Here it's a $300 filing fee and if you can find an attorney to do it for $500 it's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO worth the money. That way every thing's out on paperand there's no arguement later on! Ex: If he switches jobs or some one moves. Here awhile back I posted about meeting with dsd's attorney and the courts will do you NO favors if you don't put it in writing.

I don't know about divorce, but you can go to your county courthouse and file for child support for free I believe. Are you still living together now? If not, you can file NOW. I would call them first thing Monday and ask what needs to be done since you are legally still married. If he is not contesting anything, then you shouldn't really have a problem. From what I've learned there is a "formula" in figuring out how much support he pays based on your income and his. Good luck to you!