A friend of mine ALWAYS looks great whenever I see her. She wears dresses and skirts and has her hair nice, makeup on, etc. And when I commented on how she looked so great all of the time, she said that her grandmother told her that whenever she was out in public, she was respresenting her family and that she was honoring her husband by taking pride in her appearance. Wow.I felt bad about how I used to slump around town in sweatpants and a ballcap....Now, I really try to look nice when I am out ( for him AND for me ). I do feel more feminine and therefore I feel I ACT more feminine and people really DO treat you with more respect. Any thoughts on this???

I've never thought about it specifically honoring DH, I've always wanted to look nice because I know that when I am out--I represent God and my family as a whole. I don't necessarily "dress up", I just look at what I am wearing and make sure that it's not revealing in anyway, etc. Basically, I think "If I ran into my preacher today would I be embarrassed?" BUT that is something to think about, dressing more feminine. I am sure my DH would like it. I'm sure he's tired of the jeans and fitted tees and flip flops

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I do like to look nice when I go out but I guess I feel that representing or honoring my family is more about the way I act and how I treat others. I don't judge people buy the way they dress and I would hope others don't judge me that way either.

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One thing I have found out in my almost 51 years of living, is that you have to want to do things for yourself.

Like taking pride in your appearance or the way you act. Like loosing weight for your health and not to keep someone. Keeping track of your finances so that you can live a comfortable lifestyle and not to overspend so that you can look good to your friends.

I always try to look my best no matter if I am going out, at work or laying about the house. God made me for a reason and I celebrate that fact every morning that I wake up, by being the best that I can be.

This post reminds me of a funny story my mom likes to tell:

Back in the 70's my dad worked in a very professional office around some nice-looking people. In his younger days, my dad was also among the "nice looking" set (these looks didn't pass down to me ). Well, one weekend my mom and dad were doing some yard work and had gotten pretty dirty. They needed something for the garden and had to make a run to the store. They were still in their grungy clothes and my mom had her hair in curlers and no makeup on. While they were out, they ran into a very attractive woman that my dad worked with. My mom was horrified. She said she just knew this woman went to work Monday and told everyone "You're not going to believe the ugly woman that ____ is married to." Ever since then, my mom always makes a point to look presentable at all times, even if she's just running up to the corner store for milk. Because of her story, I always try to take the time to look nice.

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I don't care what I look like and nor should my husband. If he does, he married the wrong person. I dress in what I like and I hate dresses and skirts. I just don't wear daisy dukes, stuff with holes and spandex as I don't like that stuff. I am me and DH had better like it.

I guess I look at it as a way of honoring myself...not Dh, but I agree with the sentiment.

I think it would be great if we all took people at who they are, and not what they look like, but unfortunately, many people DO make assumptions about people based on how they look, what car they drive etc. I read about it on these boards all the time! LOL! I personally actively try NOT to do that, but I have witnessed it.

Do I "care" what others think of me...not really. I care how "I" think of me, and how I want to look. Everyone is different, obviously.

I am not a person that dresses in "sloppier" clothing. It obviously depends on what you consider 'sloppy'. I consider workout gear, only appropriate for...working out. I would never go shopping or volunteering in the clothing I wear to exercise in...it's just not what I want to do and I don't feel comfortable doing it. Everyone is different. I wouldn't think someone is a SLOB if they had on sweatpants, but I don't choose to dress that way personally. Just like I would hope that someone didn't consider me a SNOB because I chose to wear different things.

I have a friend that thinks I 'dress up' all the time. Obviously her definition of 'dressed up' is far different from mine! She teases me good naturedly about it...so we are shopping or out to lunch, and she has on velour yoga pants and a t shirt, and I have on dark jeans and button down shirt with a scarf or slacks and sweater.

Same with makeup...I don't wear a lot but I do wear it every time I go out. It's just what makes me feel pretty and confident. Are there people who don't wear it and don't care and feel good no matter what - sure...definately! To each their own.

I don't consider it honoring DH but myself. My mother always dressed "up" to go to the mall or shopping. Not a dress and heels, but something clean and neat. Not whatever she was wearing to cook, clean, garden in. She didn't want me going out to the mall dressed in dirty or ragged stuff because she felt it reflected poorly on her.
I have run out to Home Depot from the garden, but I do check that I don't have dirt on my knees or stains on my shirt. I have stopped in the grocer on my way home from yoga, but usually just to get one little thing like milk. But DH and I both try to look nicer when we go out/shopping, etc. We have a friend who is a doctor and he told me DH once that even in his down time, he is a doctor. You never know when you will run into a colleague or a patient, and he felt he always needed to maintain a professional appearance. DH took that to heart and always makes sure he looks nice at the store. He's run into many people from work at Costco - judges, politicians, etc. He's glad he did not look like a weekend bum when he did.

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Well, I think people should care what others think about them to a degree. I care what others think and hope they value me enough to care what I think. I hate hearing that, I don't care stuff!
I don't think you should be constantly worried about others. But how you present yourself is the first impression you give to others and gives them a little idea of who you. And if you may have something in common with them.
I agree that when you are out you do represent your family. I want my children and my dh to be proud of the mother and wife they have and not want to be ashamed. Not to say they would, but I would rather them be proud.
Now I am not one who puts on pearls to go out. I am not very pleased or comfortable with my body right now. So nothing seems to look great. But I do put on make up every day. Even if I don't go out. Dh will at least have a good view. I fix my hair every day as well.

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"Before I was a Mom I didn't know the feeling of having my heart outside my body." ~Anonymous

Wow. You would not want to run into me at Home Depot. I've gone there looking pretty dirty. I'm not changing my clothes to run and get screws when we run out of them during a project. I've gone with paint, drywall dust, mulch, etc on my clothes. Lucky for me, our friends would think that was hot