#16 Supercharging Success

“Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.” -- David Frost

Creative Visualization
Visualize yourself achieving your goal. How will it feel? What will it look like? What will it taste, smell, and feel like? Close your eyes and imagine everything about it. The more detailed you can be when you visualize, the better. Use your imagination to create a clear image of what success will be like. Don’t just visualize yourself watching it happen, visualize yourself in the action. Revisit these feelings frequently in order to supercharge your energy and drive to make them happen.

Use Positive Self-Talk
Affirmations and positive self-talk can help you as you visualize your dreams coming true. Pay close attention to what you say when to talk to yourself. Most people engage in negative self-talk which can prevent them from reaching their goals. Your affirmations are self-talk you engage in to help you feel good. They are your inner voice, or cheerleader. They play a role in altering your subconscious and system of beliefs and help bring about change.

For example, if your goal is to pay down your debt, turn your self-talk around to the positive. Instead of saying, “I have so much debt I don’t know how I’ll ever pay it down.” Remove the word debt from your self-talk and include positive wording in the present tense and as fact: “I am taking the steps I need to take to be financially free.” What we focus on expands, so by focusing on the positive you’re helping to bring about change.

Find a Support Network
The encouragement and help of others is going to play a vital role in your success. Telling others about your goals can also help hold you accountable to achieve what you want. However, be careful about who you tell. Choose selectively. Share your dreams with people who will help support you, not laugh or diminish what you're trying to do. Find mentors and teachers who want to see you succeed. Seek out like-minded people.

Find Ways to Enjoy the Process
Be wary of guilt, which can be a sign that you’re on the wrong path. If you want to get in shape and the treadmill is collecting dust in the corner, you may need to change your process. Maybe you’re the type that needs to be with others in order to work out. Try an aerobics class instead. Or, maybe yoga is more your speed. The most important thing is to enjoy the process itself.

If you still can’t find ways to have fun along the road to your goals, ask yourself, “Why am I pursuing this?” You may find that you’re chasing the wrong goals. A lot of people want to add getting published to their list of achievements, but yet don’t actually enjoy writing! Really think about what it is that you’re after. If you’re after validation or your 15 minutes of fame, is there another way to achieve it? What is it that you really enjoy doing that will get you there?

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I'm having trouble with this part. I have three main goals that I'm working on right now. I am already starting to see amazing things happen but I'm afraid to share them with anyone for fear they will rain on my parade.

Good things are just pouring into my life in the last 4 weeks but I have this fear that if I tell anyone, it will all go away. I need therapy! I think part of it is that as women we often hear our mother's voice in our self talk and my mother who is a generous and loving person is a pessimist who doesn't like change. One of my main goals is to get fit. I had to borrow her van to pick up the treadmill. She didn't mind me borrowing the van but she was upset about the treadmill. "It's only going to end up collecting dust in the basement. What a waste of money. There are so many other things you could have used that money for." You don't think I was trying SO HARD not tell myself that?!?! How do I get rid of her voice in my head? Even my best friend, who is so encouraging (but heavy) doesn't support me 100% on my fitness goals. "You're fine the way you are.", "Running hurts your knees."

Any advice on how to find someone who can support me 100%? (I don't want it to be dh .. too much baggage. I want to do these things for me and if he is my support system I may end up doing it for him, or over-reacting to his 'support' if you kwim?)

The other issue that makes me hesitant to share is that I don't want to sound braggy or make someone jealous. My three main goals (with plans) are:

1) To be fit.
2) To be organized.
3) To be financially stable.

So if I share that suddenly more money is pouring into my life or that I've lost 10 lbs, who is truly going to be happy for me?

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Mom to dd (age 9) and ds (age 11)
blogging daily about purpose and personal identity

This is a tough one. I used to be REALLY guarded with a lot of my goals too. Now I figure nothing ventured, nothing gained. I am also in a place in my life where it doesn't matter if I achieve more, I'm very content with the status quo. I sort of have a "What do I have to lose by trying?" attitude.

One bit of advice I have is try to seek out mentors. You may not have friends that really understand what you're trying to accomplish, but that doesn't mean that there aren't people out there that can help you. For your fitness goals, your mentor may be someone you emulate. Ask them for advice in how they achieved their goals. There are a lot of great women right here that can help support your goals, but sometimes that does mean putting yourself out there a little in order to receive. Be strong! Believe in what you're doing.

Support can sometimes come in the form of books, videos, online resources, etc. Try to think outside the box a little.

Also, be confident in your dreams practice your positive self-talk when you get down on yourself. Remember, 75% of what we tell ourself is negative and that has a HUGE impact on our subconscious.

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I agree sometimes your support can be from out side. I have Exercise regularly as a goal. I joined a Hot Mommy fitness group. Ok so I am hanging out and walking with people who have similar goals.

One of my other top goals get PG. You even mention that you are TTC and I have had tips advice, offers of free PG test and Ovulation sticks.

My other big goals are to stay up to date on my scrapbooks and Mommy savers helps me do that with there monthly crops.

I have a goal to finish knitting projects and therefore I make a point of leaving the house twice a week to knit.

So we have a amazing resource right here with the internet. Sitting at home I do not feel as alone. I have people I can get support from. I am very active with my groups I am in. They are a big help.

One of my goals in getting PG is to have a healthy Pregnany and I am starting by trying to get as much weight off as I can. I do WW and do it with a friend. Having the friend who is there with me is a huge benifit.

A big part of it is to tell people what you are aiming for they will never ask how your workouts are going if you don't tell them that its a high priority goal

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KH, WE are! You have already started posting in the health and fitness forum and you know there are a handful of us over there that are daily regulars. I know you only know us online, but we are real people! I lost 30 pounds last year and I couldn't have done it without stevesgal and doozer. They made it so much more fun. It was so easy to talk to them and open up about the weekly struggles and successes because I don't "know" them in real life. I loved my Friday reports. I still do! So sometimes what you are looking for is right under your nose.