Time to let go....

Bucsnpats · **Time to let go....**

From my Anne Wilson Schaf book...Motivations for women who do too much....very inspiring........

Letting Go/Resentments

"Wanna fly, you got to give up the sh*t that weighs you down.”

"Our old sh*t is so precious to us. We tenderly harbor our old resentments and periodically throw them pieces of fresh flesh to keep them alive. We nurture our anger. We don't do anything to work it through or let it go, we just hang on and nurture it. And we wonder why we feel so stuck and held back in our lives.

When we hold onto old sh*t, it weighs us down. It is as if our feet are stuck in fresh tar.

There comes a time that we can see that it doesn't really matter what someone has done to us, our holding onto it is hurting us not them, and if we want to heal, we had best take our old sh*t and fertilize the flowers.

The only way to grow is to let go.”

3boys2anglz · 12-29-2006, 07:22 AM

Thanks, I needed that.

desertmom · 12-29-2006, 10:12 AM

When I first read this, I was thinking of how we are working on decluttering our house. Then as I finished reading, it made me think of how I need to let go of the mental clutter - negative relationships, or just the negative things in relationships I'm stuck in (like with dh). Seems like every time I try a fresh start, he becomes his old tarry self. He's home this week on vacation, but has been sick all week, and refuses to take medicine or see a doctor. He'd rather be a grump. Can't stand being with him and his explosiveness.

But it's right. I need to find a way to let go. Question is, how.......

Bucsnpats · 03-12-2007, 08:07 AM

I am bumping this....this is something that I used to read everyday because it was posted on my fridge. With the move last year it was "lost" and I have been meaning to print it out again. I am also going to add this to my blog!!

Bucsnpats · 07-30-2007, 06:51 AM

Bumping this again...it has come up recently....and had to find it.

melsb · 07-30-2007, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Bucsnpats

The only way to grow is to let go.”

This is so hard to do but it is how I attempt to live my life and it's a conversation I just had with my brother about 30 minutes ago. He can carry grudge like no other - of course he also had a major heartattack back in December and (though he has quit smoking, changed his eating habits and now exercises and done a lot of good things) he still was in the hospital again on Wednesday and I think it just came down to his bad attitude about things!

Jillypoo · 07-30-2007, 01:21 PM

Thanks for posting that Stacey!
My MIL so needs to take that advice! maybe I will print out and give it to her.

goin24/7 · 07-30-2007, 06:36 PM

I love it - I'm printing out a few copies - one for my fridge, one for my best friend, and the third I am sticking in a coworkers mail slot anonymously.

littlelizard · 07-31-2007, 09:08 AM

That was great. For a long time I was angry about some things that happened around the time leading up to and after ds1's birth. I felt like if I "let go" it would be saying that what they did was okay, and be disloyal to my son. But eventually I figured unless I was going to "do something" to get back at them, which I wasn't, I was just giving them my mental real estate and energy that they didn't deserve. It was such a freeing feeling to say "you aren't worth my energy anymore."

Princess1 · 08-03-2007, 12:42 AM

That's pretty good. I like what my ds says at times "Can we just move on?" I've been really trying here lately to move on with my life and get rid of the extra baggage that's of no use to me. It's like carrying a dead horse up a hill. Why bother? You can't change the past or people for that matter. You just have to live your life to the fullest and do the best you can with what you got. You'll make mistakes. You're human. Forgive yourself and move on.