grrrr christian vent - Page 3

alaskangirl · 07-26-2006, 07:31 PM

good for you!! you are doing what you need to do for your family. i applaud you for it and the kids will come out fine. Mari & Annie and anne could not have said it better!!

WMiners · 07-26-2006, 07:45 PM

yes i didnt mean to leave annie out she had great advice too.I'm quickly learning that most of my real friends are on here!

hindsight2020 · 07-27-2006, 12:29 AM

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Quote[/b] (calimari @ July 26 2006,10:35)]I have to wonder about people who presume to know what "God's will" is.

All my closest friends are Christians, very active in their churches, and they have never been critical of me re: my divorce, my choice to use birth control/not have kids, my own views of religion, etc. *Wendy, maybe you could tell them that God told you they weren't good friends?

YES! Well put Calimari! Christians with a good (non)understanding of God's will generally don't mention much about it.

mom25inmn · 07-27-2006, 10:16 AM

Some people just need to keep their nose on their face and out of other peoples business.

I am Catholic and even in the Catholic church--when a marriage goes bad (cheating, abuse, etc.) it's a deal breaker--you are allowed to divorce (annull) the marriage.
If you were forced into marriage (didn't do it with free will) or so many other reasons-- pretty much any reason other than just selfishness (which isn't your reason at all) is reason for divorce in the church if you want it to be.

So tell those people that have all that concern for you to put that in their pipe and smoke it!

Oh and remind them that they don't know what your circumstances are and don't feel that you have to justify your decisions to them or explain why you are doing what you are doing--none of their business!

WMiners · 07-27-2006, 11:07 AM

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Quote[/b] (mom25inmn @ July 27 2006,11:16)]Oh and remind them that they don't know what your circumstances are and don't feel that you have to justify your decisions to them or explain why you are doing what you are doing--none of their business!

It just irks me that i have 2 friends mad at me because i didnt tell them when we were having problems so they must not have been good enough firends.WTH?I'm sorry but our marriage has nothing to do with our friendship.One firend even said she felt like I had been lying to her this whole time.......needless to say i have not spoken to her since she said that!

mommamia · 07-27-2006, 11:26 AM

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Quote[/b] (mom25inmn @ July 27 2006,11:16)]Oh and remind them that they don't know what your circumstances are and don't feel that you have to justify your decisions to them or explain why you are doing what you are doing--none of their business!

It just irks me that i have 2 friends mad at me because i didnt tell them when we were having problems so they must not have been good enough firends.WTH?I'm sorry but our marriage has nothing to do with our friendship.One firend even said she felt like I had been lying to her this whole time.......needless to say i have not spoken to her since she said that!

How considerate of them to burden you with what your marital problems and divorce are/have done to them. Shesh, Wendy didn't you think of your friends? That's one of the most ridiculous comments I have ever heard, just plain selfish. Where's the darn rolleyes smilie when you need it?

WMiners · 07-27-2006, 11:43 AM

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Quote[/b] (mom25inmn @ July 27 2006,11:16)]Oh and remind them that they don't know what your circumstances are and don't feel that you have to justify your decisions to them or explain why you are doing what you are doing--none of their business!

It just irks me that i have 2 friends mad at me because i didnt tell them when we were having problems so they must not have been good enough firends.WTH?I'm sorry but our marriage has nothing to do with our friendship.One firend even said she felt like I had been lying to her this whole time.......needless to say i have not spoken to her since she said that!

How considerate of them to burden you with what your marital problems and divorce are/have done to them. *Shesh, Wendy didn't you think of your friends? *That's one of the most ridiculous comments I have ever heard, just plain selfish. *Where's the darn rolleyes smilie when you need it?

THanks sweetie for your 2 cents becuase i was boucning off the walls when she siad that i was soooo mad!

TGen i though well maybe i did do something wrong?But i'm seeing nope i didnt

JSEVEN · 07-28-2006, 01:11 AM

W...I hate that. In order to be happy is to make yourself happy first in order to take care of your children & thier happiness. They don't know your situation and what they are doing is wrong. They aren't your friends...that is all I have to say.

butterflymom · 07-28-2006, 02:26 AM

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W...I hate that. In order to be happy is to make yourself happy first in order to take care of your children & thier happiness. They don't know your situation and what they are doing is wrong. They aren't your friends...that is all I have to say.

And look i already have a new friend in AZ!i am sooo thankful for all your girls:D

Daisy · 07-30-2006, 08:54 PM

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Wendy you just tell them that the bible warns against using God against people. Remind them as Christians they should not be offending or passing judgement. The world loves to wage wars and battles in God's name and the Bible strictly warns against this. If you have asked for guidance and God is leading you away from dh then who is to say that is not the path intended for you. They could be turning you away from God's will with all of their good intentions. People never see the paradox that enlies in almost every political or religious statement. It's your heart, you decide what's right. All I ask is that you offer up prayer first and leave your heart open, however, I can not demand it as I could very well be wrong too. See the paradox.....:O

Could you please tell me where it is in the bible about the bible warning against people using god against people? THanx

WMINERS, I am sorry people are doing this to you! It is not their business and they do not know what is going on with you, so just be who you are and do what you need to. Big Hugs!!