I was reading an article somewhere, in a magazine in the gym the other day and I had one of those light bulb moments. I thought I would share that with you

I have always said "it's mind over matter". If you tell yourself "I can't do it" you won't. You will make up every single excuse as to why you can't do something, when in reality you probably could...but just aren't quite sure of yourself. When we encourage our kids to sit up, crawl and then walk, we are there cheering them on, telling them they can do it. And we are there, watching them progress and taking such pride in that moment with them. Kids are so resilient. They set their mind to do something and they do it. Plain and simple. I don't know too many toddlers nowadays that let small (or even large) obstacles get in their way. THey are willing to risk injury to accomplish what they want to accomplish. And why? BECAUSE IT'S MIND OVER MATTER. They aren't telling themselves "I don't have time", "I'm sick", "I have no energy", "It's impossible", "It's too much work", "what's the use?". They are saying "I am going to walk over there, take that toy out of my brother's hand and play with it". And THAT is what they do. Even if it means falling on their head, arm, leg, bum....they will do it! You are encouraging your kids to be strong individuals and to work towards a goal.....why don't you do that for yourself?

There are so many reasons people come up with to not exercise. SO MANY. Whether it's time, money, etc, you will hear it. So when do we stop to say "I want to live a better life for myself, my kids, my dh and my family?" When do we say "I want to feel better, look better, be the object of envy?". When do we say "I CAN do this?". I firmly believe if you set your mind to something you WILL be able to prioritize exercising in your life.

Tell me, how many TV shows do you keep up with a week? Count those hours off in your head? Then tell me again, how much "time" you don't have to exercise. Oh I know, watching TV at night is your way to veg and relax after a long day. I GET THAT...BELIEVE ME. It's the only time I sit down during the day (I am often surfing the net, standing up). But if you WANT to make a better life for yourself, THINK about your schedule now and how you can make this work. And let me just say, you can easily do pilates and yoga watching TV. They are all floor exercises and require zero equipment. Pilates is also a great exercise to use in a small space and it works the smallest muscles in your body which will give you more definition in the long run.

When we tell ourselves " I look awful", "he's not attracted to me", "I'm fat" you are beating yourself up with nagative talk. Everything we say in the negative sense adds up and weighs us down, psychologically. People around us sense our negative energy. It makes it uncomfortable to be around us, because we have nothing nice to say about ourselves. If our friends and family only hear what we say about ourself, we can imagine what they think we say about them!!! It's hard to love someone who doesn't love themselves. I am now just getting that. I am very guilty of negative talk. My head is full of it. I am my own worst critic. I truly am. I've been that way for years. I used to seek love, acceptance and support from dh when I was beating myself up over stupid stuff. If he didn't tell me things when I needed to hear them, I would get so down on myself. Why would I do that to him or to my friends? It's not fair to them to depend on them to make me happy about myself. A lot of it has to do with the fact that I never felt like I measured up enough to anyone and I never got the encouragement I needed from those I loved when and if I did something great. I should have my own self confidence to build me up in those times. It's been a long road for me to go down, but I think I have come to a place in my life where I can look at myself in the mirror and say "job well done" or "I am proud of you" or "you look good today". I am now thirty two years old. This is the first time in my life that I have felt comfortable in my own skin. I never want my kids to grow up the way I did. They will always be worthy of my love and my attention and my pride. They will know that I believe in them and am proud of them for everything they do. Tehy will grow up with self esteem. Even if I have to beat it into them!! (kidding)

I don't want any of you to feel the way I did...or feel that way now. WE are all worthy of being here and being better people. It takes time, effort and COMMITMENT. Stop the negative talk, the excuses and the pity party and get on this wagon. The blood, the sweat and the tears are so worth it ladies. If things were easy where is the sense in pride in that? Work hard, set the bar high for yourself, and make yourself a living example of hard work so you can be proud of the person you are or who you want to be.

Stop the negative talk and JUST DO IT (Nike)

Let Bob the Builder be your guide. He would say :

Can we build HER
YES WE CAN!

:yay!: :yay!: :yay!: Good job, Christy!! Have you ever thought about becoming a motivational speaker!? LOL

I agree with all you said, though...check the quote in my signature...I truly believe that. I've also been told for several years, "What you think about, you bring about"...meaning if you believe it CAN happen, it WILL happen because you'll MAKE it happen. Think positive thoughts, bring about positive results. Think negative thoughts, bring about negative results.

Christy you are right it is "mind over matter". I will tell you first hand that I talk negative about myself ALL of the time. My husband will tell me that he loves me the way I am over and over and I will tell him to be quiet or I think you could find better!! Why do I torture myself like that?? I guess my answer to that is society. I look way too into it. And I shouldn't. So THANK YOU for being that motivator that keeps us coming and helping us push ourselves and realize that we can and will succeed. There is no can't and won't.

Thank you!

Sonja

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Thanks Christy, I am going to print this up and put it on my fridge to read every morning. We have a Bob the Builder doll, maybe I should start carrying him around to say those words to me!

Christy...sometimes you scare me! I didn't feel like walking this moring, but told myself I WOULD do it (among other things I said to myself) and then to come on here and read that....
spooky, spooky, spooky......

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(was that spooky?)

Very good words and thoughts. I am impressed and its definitely so, so true! I am guilty of being my own worst critic. Its like the Pink song - "I'm my own worst enemy"....that's so true for a lot of people. I know one thing though, I've had so much stuff going on lately that if I didn't try to build myself up a little (I was just thinking today how proud I am to have lost so much weight already and that I lost it the HEALTHY way, exercising and eating SOO much better) I would be a total mess. Now I just need to keep that going no matter what's going on. Because really, I am proud of myself, I know I'm a strong person and if I live my life worrying and wondering what others think of me, I'll waste my life.

Give yourself a pat on the back Christy, that was excellent!

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Proud Air Force Family

Christy, you are so right! I know this is so true, and I need to start telling myself that I can do it every day!

Thanks for the motivation!

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Seriously, I am listening to Joel Osteen right now and he is speaking on taking time just like this...

Now that is spooky! LOL Maybe this is my sign....

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