How do you feel when people come up to you and say ...."Oh you look great, you've lost a lot of weigh haven't you" .....when you are on a diet.
I sometime feel ....geee thanks...was I really that awful before!lol
I like it when people notice....but it sometimes hurts. I guess the truth can hurt sometimes.

Heather

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Heather
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I try to take it as a compliment because my efforts are paying off. But I know where you are coming from. I hate it when I've lost weight and have been exercising like a maniac and people don't say anything. I think to myself 'Am I soooo huge that I'd have to lose 20-30 lbs before anyone would notice?!?'. I try to graciously (which is hard for me) accept the compliment and use it as more motivation.

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Ordinary riches can be stolen; real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you. ~Oscar Wilde

Several years ago I worked at a company - and had been working there a long time when I went through a year long struggle to lose over 50 lbs. One day a guy saw me walking down the hall and word got back to me that I struck his fancy (I was married at the time so of course that wasn't going to go anywhere.) He started to ask around if I was new at the company. No, I had been working there for almost 10 years! And I had worked WITH him on work teams.

I was devastated. How could losing a few pounds make such a huge difference? I mean really, I didn't know the guy well but I had worked with him in the past and he thought I was a completely different person?

So I know what you mean. I take it as a compliment because that is the other person's intent. But at the same time, the change in our mental image of how we look to the rest of the world is apart of the struggle with dieting. And getting more attention is one of the struggles, too. Sometimes it IS easier to be overweight and not very appealling to the opposite gender.

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Gosh, I agree w/ Cookie. It is easier, sometimes.

Anyway, it really is meant as a compliment. I know that when I've complimented someone on losing weight, it rarely was just the weight. They were more radiant, usually had new, different styles of clothes that were more flattering (closer cut to their body), and just looked happier, carrying themselves differently. Confidence is very attractive. You can usually tell who lost weight thru effort and who lost it thru sickness. The ones who did it thru effort stand taller and straighter and just seem happier with life in general.

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I agree... I would hate for someone to think I was giving them a backhanded insult when I truly was trying to give them a compliment from the heart! I say accept it as a compliment and pat yourself on the back!

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I always feel complimented, even if I did look awful and I know it or not it's good to know I look better and someone noticed.

I recently lost 25lbs in about 2 months. I went down 2 sizes - not a single person at work mentioned it. Luckily my self esteem is not based on their opinion of me.