I've been thinking and it finally occurred to me that no one really KNOWS me. Yeah, people know who I am (like my name, where I live, etc.) but no one knows the me inside and no one has taken the time to find out. This could be my own fault but no one has ever really seemed intersted. DH attempts to find out, but then he attempts to fix me. Like I'm not supposed to have things that bother me. There aren't supposed to be things that upset me and will continue to upset me for a while. It really kind of sucks. My friends don't even want to know. Yeah, many of them say I can talk to them whenever, but when it comes time for that and I attempt to talk, I either get blown off or they pipe in with their own story about how they can relate. i've thought about paying someone to sit and listen but that take money and insurance won't cover it. It's almost depressing. Why don't people genuinely care about others anymore?? Or is this nothing new and I'm just now starting to realize it??

i also have friends like that, and i've started to distance myself from them. on the other hand, i have a dh that knows me inside and out. he knows my biggest fears and dreams and worries. he would never try to "fix" me. i still think there are genuine people out there who do care, just got to find them. i don't think you should go to a counselor, especially if money is an issue, you have a ton of women right here who do not judge and would listen to every word! so.... what don't we know about you?

I've always felt this way. I've never really felt like anyone truely knows me. I also never really felt like I fit in with anyone except a few people but they ended up passing away. I think over time I've closed up more and more because of it. I've always felt like the 'loner.' I just embrase it. Really, the only other choice is to be sad about it if I don't. I really don't know what advice to give in making you feel better. Just know you aren't alone in feeling this way.

I feel the same way alot of times. People don't really know me and don't seem to care to get to know me or try to fix me if I complain about something. Or if I complain about something, they act like I'm being unreasonable sort of. I had a boyfriend who sounds like your dh.. trying to fix me instead of just listening.

I think one reason why people are like this around me is because I am so quiet. I am perfectly content to sit in a room or at my desk at work and not say a word to anyone. I think it sort of intimidates people plus people don't get to know me or how I am or what I like to do.

Just know that there are people around that are caring..

I think the better and less time consuming question is what DO you know about me??

And now that I'm reading this again...I appear to be looking for a pity party .

I don't think you are looking for a pity party at all. Everyone wants to feel valued, that their thoughts and feelings matter. Unfortunately alot of people are great at receiving validation, they are just awful at returning it.

So lets go! You've got hundreds of listening ears just waiting to listen to you.

If you were going to pay a therapist to listen to you, what is the first thing that comes to mind that you want to address or talk about?

I feel like no one really knows me also. All tho I do have a pretty good relationship with dh at times I feel like he's not really listening either. I have gotten alot of good advice right here on mommysavers forums. You all really don't realize how much you have helped. Thanks!!! We do have a good group of women right here that can offer alot of support and advice.

I don't think u are looking for a pity party either. I am not sure if it's age or circunstance but I used to remember everything everyone used to tell me. maybe it's the online chat thing. I can't seem to remember who said what or I confuse two people,especially if they have similar ID's. For as loon as I've been here I feel like I don't hardly know anyone. I always feel bad that I don't remember things about members. Now I will fel even worse, Thanks alot, JK.
I think for me I have turned inward due to my own circumstances that I don't look outward at others. I am an extrovert and used to make friends very easy, not anymore. I can tell when I feel better about myself I eagerly meet and learn new things about others.

Have u signed up for mom of the week? It's a good way for other to get to know u.

allgirls

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Well...it would probably be easier to just make a list of my "issues" and go from there.

1. I'm still having a hard time dealing with my mother's passing and I still have an even harder time talking about it
2. My IL's think I hate them because I speak my mind and after 8 years, it's finally starting to bother them
3. Money is very tight and it doesn't seem like there's any light at the end of that tunnel
4. My father is an alcoholic and I really don't like to be around him or his family and I don't know how to deal with that
5. DH is annoying me. Literally getting on my nerves and I'm not sure how to deal with it

Well that's a start...any questions???

Well i can totally relate to #3 & # 5, vent anytime you need too. Sometimes it is easier to tell strangers your frustrations if friends and family blow you off.

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