I am finding that I can not start any thread without offending someone especially in the soul searching section. I wasn't trying to put everyone or anyone down. I just wanted something\somewhere I could get support without negative feedback. I guess that only happens in a perfect world. From now on I am keeping my questions to myself because It seems there is too much judgment going on. The funny thing is we do not know each other on a personal level. you cannot really get to know someone without seeing them in person and spending quality time together. It seems like I am seeing signs why blessedwith6 left. Well it was nice to know you all thanks for the conversation. Sorry for not being PC.

I'm sorry YOUR feelings are getting hurt. I don't know which posts/threads you are referring to, but I find that often it can be not so much the subject or feelings brought up, but rather the way it's worded. I can pm you with an example, if you are interested. I don't think anyone wants to actually hurt someone's feelings here, but maybe if you go back and read what was posted, see if someone can take it wrong. Sometimes, I post something, then come back in a different mood and say, "Dang...I didn't mean to sound like that." I'm not saying you are like that, I am just giving you my experience. Don't give up. I think you ask some good questions! If you word it in a way to invite the other side (I can't remember your exact posts, so perhaps you already do), and try to see responses as not attacking personally, maybe it would help. JMHO.

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Well, I think know why blessedwith6 left and what you are mentioning it is not the reason - or at least I do not think so.

I do know what you mean. I used to feel the same way. As aliadam said in response to one of your posts, you do have to remove yourself a bit or you will go crazy sometimes. There are lots of nice, supportive women here, but there are some hotheads, too. Shoot, sometimes I am a hothead. Don't give up on us yet. Honestly, you will learn to just ignore some things. Just take somethings up in prayer right away if you know how it will make you feel. Just my two cents and experience.

I agree with Claire.I think no matter what you post you are going to get support from some and some who are offended.

Amber, I really don't care what you or anyone else believes. If it makes you feel whole and complete, that's fabulous. Getting sad over what someone will or won't believe is pointless as we are all different. I am not offended in what you believe in or why you believe in it. I'm not even offended if you think I am going to burn in hell. What does offend me is petty insults about spelling or whatever. What I meant was the whole thread went crazy and it did. You didn't have to throw something petty like the spelling comment out there.

Amber, I think I just saw what just hit you hard, and it was totally inappropriate. The mods to the forum are being given a heads up. Thank you. And know that if anything personally attacking is done, the mods can be notified. Personal attacks are unnecessary and are against the board rules. We do try to read all that's going on, but a few may be overlooked for a short period of time.

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I haven't been reading in the soul searching as much as I used to so I'm not sure which threads your referring to. I don't think u need to be PC. But I think u also need to expect a wide range of opinions. some will agree with you some won't.
I also agree with Chirsty, not why Blessed_with_6 left.

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What carlitasway said.

I looked in earlier, and figured that it would be a thread of why people believe in God, and talking about God. Ya know, supporting each other.

Instead, it was talking about other people/groups - namely people who were not followers of a Christian god. It was pretty condescending, and I thought rude. Then the personal attacks, some of which I really do feel you (Amber) did do - attack others. Not cool It upset me, I thought about reporting it, but I didn't.

I didn't jump in, because I knew it was going to go bad, and bad fast. You cannot dis other people or talk down about them without peeving them off.

I would stay out of a thread (as a non-believer) that was about "why I believe in God" or "Hey everyone who is a new Christian, let's talk here", as long as that's what the thread is - talking about your God and learning and loving him. Talking about other people and putting them down is what turns a thread - and fast

I'm sorry that you've been upset, and that others have been. I hope everyone can find a way of agreement, and be able to either apologise or let bygones be bygones.

Amber - there's no reason for you to go away. This is a discussion board - believe me, I have seen some arguments on this board and these threads you are talking about are nothing. You haven't offended me. I apparently offend christians all the time just by existing, but I've stopped caring about that several arguments ago (couple years) because I have as much a right to express my beliefs as you do yours. And I am VERY used to people here trying to tell me I'm wrong, praying for me, etc.
If your faith brings you peace, happiness, help to get through your day, positive thoughts to reflect on, support when you are low, that is a wonderful thing. Not everybody has someone or something to do that for them. Faith has never done that for me. We have had opposite life experiences - that is all. Don't waste time "feeling sad" for people who don't believe. We're happy! You believe - be happy!
I was in church the other day (it happens - it was a wedding) - and the pastor told a story about how you can choose to be happy. For instance - the car is totalled. You can be happy, or you can be sad, but either way the car is totalled. So you might as well be happy & not waste energy on being sad. So you go start a thread that will get responses from folks you want to hear from. Start something like "why do you love god" or "if you weren't christian before, what brought you to christianity". Something where non-believers would obviously not have anything to bring to the table.

And, Amber, I'm sorry for what I typed before I edited. It was very inappropriate and I should have been less impulsive.