Thank you all, for your advice. That was my sentiments also. Her mom has enabled her far too long and it really does her no justice. I have helped her once before and she ended up going back to her kids dad, who can't ever keep a job either. She did do a service for me last year watching my kids a couple of hours, two days a week so that I could attend a class. I paid her more than I would anyone else (20 dollars a day for about 3 1\2 hours) She used the money to get a mobile home with him and now they lost it. She lives in a trailer with the kids now and he is living off of a new girlfriend. Anyway, She had money saved to do something last year but made the wrong choice. I know what it is like to be a single parent but I had a job, in fact I like working. I want to get a part-time job after the baby is born. She would probably have better self esteem and improve her situation if she got one. She really can't be to picky though because she doesn't have education or much experience. You have to start somewhere and it might not be the dream job you hoped for but it is a start. Anyway thank
you all for your responses I appreciate it. Someone at church told her a gas station was hiring and she didn't look interested, so it makes me wonder, if you are that hard up and want to take care of yourself and family than you would take whatever you could. She really can't afford to be that picky.

I myself have an older sister with 3 children(2 at home) who sounds very similar. She is 42 and still has NOT learned. She makes terrible choices in life that put her in the poor house. She is picky about the jobs she gets because she "needs" flexibility, certain amount of pay, a certain commute, ect..........She also runs her mouth a little too often and has a hard time getting along with co workers.
She has terrible taste in worthless men who have a long history of never keeping a job or having severe addictions(gambling & drinking was the 1st DH, and cocaine & meth was the 2nd DH)...........the deal is, she never grew up with this example, so I still do not get it and I have given up giving advice to her(she never takes it). Plus I am the youngest in the family(10 years younger than her) and I have always acted like her big sister.
Just try to love her and be there for her kids if she has them.

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Some people think they deserve better, even if they don't have the skills (like not wanting to work in a gas station, or maybe retail or fast food - they think they should have a job in a nice office or something even tho they can't type or work a PC or anything). It's an entitlement attitude, I think. Sorry you have to deal with her - it's a tough thing that can be very wearing. Hope I helped anyway -

Yes, you have helped thank you. I know I think to myself what makes her think she is so much better than everyone else who has to work to provide for her family? I worked, went to school and was a single mom and I would go back and do it again because it taught me a lot about responsibility. Right now I do not have a job, but I have a responsible DH. I plan on going back out into the work field after I have the baby. Something part-time, right now I am enjoying my time staying home even though I am wanting a job badly I haven't really put any applications in because I am due in a couple weeks so I am waiting.

I am afraid that she will never grow up some people never do. I feel bad for her kids. One is a very angry little boy, he is five and the other one is 15 months and learning from him. I am thinking that we should take Christian the oldest somewhere with us and the kids to have fun. Since DH would never want to hang out with his sister and I truthfully would rather just take her son somewhere. We could handle him and he seems more well-behaved when his mom isn't around. She also has loose lips like your sister and says the rudest things without batting an eye. Almost like she doesn't know better. The only problem is I dread talking to her on the phone, I could probably ask her at church though on Sunday.