Blessing Our Husbands
(by Rachel Weaver)
Note: Ways that a Wife Can Bless Her Husband taken from ideas given
by a group of husbands:
1. Pray for your husband daily, not just casually ("God Bless
Hubby"
but for specific areas of need and blessing.
2. Thank God for your husband's strengths, for the growth you
see, and for the kindnesses that he shows you and the needs he meets
in your life.
3. Meditate often (at least once a week) on the Scriptures that
teach your responsibilities and position in the home.
4. Listen to him. Try to really hear what he is saying when he
communicates with you.
5. When he seems perplexed and troubled, do not pressure him.
Support him by prayer, your presence, and words of encouragement.
6. Be ready to share your observations and insights in a meek
spirit, but openly and honestly, when he asks you. You can be his
best counselor. You can anchor him when he needs it most.
7. Encourage him. Do not nag him, or boss him. Do not argue
with him even if you are sure he is wrong. He may have something in
mind that you are not aware of or do not understand. Ask his
counsel and advice.
8. Only say up-building and affirming things about your husband
to others. Do not criticize him even in a joking manner. Very
rarely should you find yourself sharing anything about his faults or
failings, and then only with someone who is truly in a position to
help.
9. Bless your husband in public. Do not apologize for his
background, weaknesses or failures. This will build up your
reverence for him and help establish the trust that you should both
have for each other.
10. If your husband has failed, entreat him in meekness, don't
exaggerate the issue or berate him.
11. Let him know that you want him to be your leader not only by
what you say but by what you do. You get that message across by the
way you respond to the leadership he does give you.
12. Seek to please your husband even when he does not spell out
what he wants you to do. Try to determine what his heart's desire
is and do it as fully as possible.
13. Teach your children to honor him, respect him, and bless
him. You do this best by your own example.
14. Depend on him. Be very sensitive to areas in which he wants
you to act independently. Do not run away with this
responsibility. Handle it carefully. If in question, choose
dependence not independence.
15. Seek opportunities to serve your husband in love. Find ways
to show him that he is your lord.
16. Be ready to make changes in your day or schedule to
accommodate his needs or desires, especially if you run a home
business and he needs you or the children to serve in some capacity.
17. When you need to make an appeal, prepare carefully. Choose
your words wisely. Choose the time well so that you can have his
attention and time to explain yourself. That way you can be sure
that he understands you. When he is weary, at the end of a long day
is not a good time to communicate weighty matters.
18. Always let your husband have the last word, the deciding
vote, the majority rule.
19. Don't say I told you so.
20. Show appreciation for the way he provides for you.
21. Let your husband know that you love his attention to you and
his singleness of heart for you. Bask in this attention and help
him relate discreetly to other women especially by letting him know
what makes women respond.
22. Reserve yourself, your beauty, and your charm for him.
Maintain true modesty and reserve while relating to other men.
There are many, many ways to bless your husband that were not even
touched here. These are just some of the ways some husbands
discussed that would make them feel honored. Women tend to think of
kisses, hugs, notes in lunch boxes and a meal spent together alone.
I am sure that our men appreciate all of those things. But as I
typed this list that husbands had made, I was extremely impressed
with their need for support and encouragement. They need and want a
visible show of this. It is born out in our everyday life in the way
we walk and talk, and in the way we respond to their leadership,
plans, and desires.
I think that many times we ladies are blind to how much contriving
and planning we do to get our own way. Perhaps not consciously, but
non-the-less we often tend to get what we really desire. We think
we just make good valid appeals. These appeals are in order
sometimes, but where is your heart? Is it where your husband can
safely rest or are you always pushing the limit? Are you always
going to bat for your young people and helping your husband to see
why this or that is such a good idea? No doubt you do have good
ideas that need to be shared, sometimes. But I am fully persuaded
that I, all too often, am really blind to my husband's true desires.
Let us pray for each other and meditate on how we can be women whose
husbands can safely trust in. Let us be supporters, encourages and
blessers. Let us affirm our husbands and be there for them. I
think it is especially important as our families grow up and
husbands need to make boundaries and guidelines for our young
people. Often these guidelines are hard to make and even harder to
implement. Let us back our husbands up and help them in their
sincere desire to guide our families right. We can make their job
infinitely easier and thus build a relationship of trust that
deepens through the years, rather than ones that erodes as our young
people grow in maturity.
What a valuable legacy to pass on to posterity! Can he trust you to
stand by him?
(Tree-hugger wannabe)
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