It is in your vent thread I don't see why that needs pity. I thought it was a great way to grow up!

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Ask your mother what it was like for her.

My mom has told me many times that she loved being a military wife!

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For me, there is a difference between a military wife, and a mother of two military brats. Small military brats.

Since this needs to be clarified:

My stress comes from the fact that my boys miss their daddy and their daddy misses them...and the military is working him around the clock. It is a war time situation so everyone is feeling the crunch. My boys ask lots of questions and need answers and need reassurance and need stability and I'm it...and I'm sad for them that they can't have their daddy. They are proud of him, but don't understand...they are too young

They aren't old enough to understand moving around all the time, or how to appreciate that the way I do....it's tough on them...which makes it tough on me.....


It's a way of life that really takes some getting used ot...and I am sooo glad you and your family adjusted well throughout your father's 30 years of service. That must have been such a great support to him. Kudos to you all

I, on the other hand, am just NOW getting a taste of deployments...and I just found out my dh is on the road more than any other person in his squadron and he's new to the squadron six months ago....he's been home for ONE month out of 6...and that isn't all at once. He goes away, comes home sometimes....completely unnannounced, stays for a couple days and then leaves again...the hellos are great, the goodbyes not so much

IT's hard...very hard...on me the MOTHER....and on me the WIFE not to mention what it's doing to my boys...

I am sorry it is so hard on you all.

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WOW - you 2 have a lot of stress going on. Sending you both lots of hugs & prayers. I wish I had a list like this to post but my things would just be petty.

Hope things start to get better for you both!

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Thanks Debi! Now that it's off my chest, I feel much better!

Christy sending lots of hugs your way.

Kathryn, you too. I know whats its like when you have a child in your home and gets hurt. As for the other stuff hugs and a prayer for you going out!

My only vent this week was taking on a former daycare child for a couple of days. He is on the wild side and just cant control himself. He was running all over slammed in to my youngest with his head and he now has a big black eye

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Have a bootiful Halloween!

Christy, I did not mean to make your stress worse!!! I was just curious. Sometimes I think that people tend to blame events in their lives too much on growing up military (not saying you were doing this, it is just a sore spot for me). I know it is hard with your dh gone so much and not knowing exactally where he will be when. I think the term military brat and stress linked together kind of struck a nerve for me simply because I was always taught that it is something to be proud of!

Hope your life gets easier.

Just think how nice the new kitchen counters will be

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Big ((hugs)) Christy. I understand where you're coming from and I know how bad it sometimes sucks. You are essentially a single mama a huge portion of the time and it's hard work. There's nothing you can say to explain this to young children in a way that will really help them grasp why daddy is never home. Add in not knowing where your dh is, or how he is and it is enough to unnerve even the strongest of women.

We've been lucky because dh has been in upgrade (to aircraft commander) since Dec which has meant no trips since that time...and it has been strange after being so used to him gone all of the time, but wonderful, too. However, he's done this week (or next?) and is getting stuck back into the two month desert, two month home rotation but the two month home isn't really "home" it's just "not desert". He will still be taking his normal two to three separate 1-2 week trips a month during his two months home. It sucks. They're all overworked and stressed. When he's home (actually home) he still works 6-7 days a week. We're all feeling the crunch and I'm sending thoughts your way...I don't know what kind of thoughts specifically, just positive, "you're an amazing woman and you are handling all of this wonderfully" thoughts.

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