I'd love some diamonds but alas, I won't get them. I usually get a box of Godiva chocolates, which I certainly enjoy!

I have a friend who usually gets a big piece of jewelry at least once a year. She does love jewelry and has some lovely pieces but none of it is anything she wears every day. She goes out 'shopping' obsessing and scrutinizing until she finds something she likes and then nags her husband until he buys it. Now they don't have the money! But he will buy it for her anyway, even if they need new carpet (I haven't been allowed in their house for 3 years because their carpet is so nasty.) or work done on their cars. I remember one year she told me she got an amethyst ring that cost $400 for valentines or mother's day and it just made me sick. I'd feel horrible if my husband spent that much money on such a trivial thing!

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My hubby has bought me some lovely little baubles that I cherish. Now that we are living a more frugal life, we won't be doing this as much. That's ok because I tend to wear the same ones over and over again.

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When we were first together and first married yes, he did buy me lots of pretty shiny things...Now we are trying to save money, He still wants to buy me things and I feel the need to talk him out of them. I have a jewelry box full of beautiful jewelry that I don't wear half of.... I don't need to add more. I've told him if he REALLY wants to buy me something, start saving now and for our 10 year anniversary, I'd really like a 3 stone ring. (That I would wear every day with my wedding band!)

Funny story though...When DD was little I wanted one of those Mother/child pendants, DH went out and bought me one...It was HUGE, now at that time I was only 118 lbs and stick thin (we're talking no neck) this thing looked like a lion door knocker on me! We brought it back and I exchanged it for a little one (3/4 smaller than the original) and we had enough $$ left over (no cash back policy) to also get him a new wedding ring (whole nother thread!). He tries, he really does try, since then he has gotten MUCH better at the gift buying!

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I do feel guilty sometimes when dh spends that kind of money or more on me. But to him it isn't trivial, its important so I let it go. I have told him many times that I don't need expensive things but he says "I know but I want to give you everything"

He's a sweetheart and I adore him so I don't fuss about it. When he gave me my necklace, and I saw it and then later found out how much he spent I said something and really hurt his feeling so I try to keep my mouth shut now.

He is much better now about spending carefully and watching our budget so it really isn't an issue now. He still spends more than I would but its his choice. Besides he now realizes that the only ring I wear is my wedding ring, I wear the same necklace everyday, and only wear my diamond studs most days so there is no point in buying more jewelry. Although he did buy me a watch for Christmas b/c I was complaining that my watch batteries were all dead ( I have about 7 great watches from jewelry buyers when I worked at Dillards) Silly boy, I just wanted a battery!

Dh really never buys me anything he just says get it yourself. He likes to spend on himself and I know that a gun for me is not really for me. I don't shoot. Also he likes to say he let me have kids. One time years back when he was on the road he bought me a beautiful silver barrette for my hair. I love silver. He loves my long hair. So that meant the world to me.

I don't care for jewelry, so he gives me flowers and electronics instead.

Cheers, from
SwampWitch

dh used to buy me nice things we have since agreed they are not needed and in order for me to stay home these things had to be cut out...wich is ok with me because i'm home with my kids and get to do all the school parties ect so it was definately a good trade off.

Yes. Usually for Christmas. Sometimes he picks it out on his own, other times I point out something I like a few months ahead of time & he gets it. Last year he bought a ruby & had it set into a pendant for me. This year I saw a slide for my omega chain on sale at a jeweler's and pointed it out to him as it was so unusual. 2 months later he gave it to me! If I find something I like, I'll buy it myself. The day after Xmas this year I found a lovely aquamarine & diamond ring 50% off at Macy's. So I bought that for me. And he bought his new computer monitor, so he got his too!

My DH goes waaaay overboard in the gift dept. For xmas this year he gave me a new laptop (yay!!!!) and a printer plus a thingy for my car that plays my ipod. I have to admit, I love that he thinks of me and makes sacrifices to buy me goodies...especially since I would never spend that much!

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My dear hubby and I have always decided before holidays that we would buy some big item and claim that as our "gift" to each other.....or just decide that we really need to save our money.

Now, I am wishing that he would stop listening too me (for once) and go all out!!!!!