I don't keep any secrets from my dh.

Oh my goodness!!! Wow, how is she now?

I'll second Blessed_with_6 - secrets are not good!

My former DH kept a bank account and many credit cards (including a PO Box) hidden from me for years. It was devastating when it all came out. I thought we worked through it but really it was just symptomatic of many other secrets that were kept from me. In a good marriage partnership there is no reason to keep secret credit cards, bank accounts or money. I would not help anyone hide something like that from their spouse unless there were abuse issues and this was possible 'escape' money. Either pay it all off for her right now or tell her you will not help her keep the bills hidden from her husband. You are in a bad spot!

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Better to give your kids the values you have
than the valuables you can't afford.

I can't even imagine doing that.

I can't imagine doing it either. I think if either party in the marriage is keeping secrets like that, it's a sign it's not a healthy marriage. I tell my dh everything.

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I did once and only because I opened up a pennys account to pay for pics that were taken of my kids an dI only kept it from him till The pics were given to him (for a gift)
so after the gift I told him He was fine I opened it to hide the gift and to get a deal on it!! but that is all the CC had on it!!

I guess I could see doing it only for buying gifts for your spouse. I just got our cc bill and I looked at it and asked dh "You paid $60 for valentine flowers!!!!"

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~Happiness is a large family~

nope dh knows what cards we each have we each have one card in our own names but we have the limits down to $500 bucks...for mini emergencies....i personally would not want to be a part of something like that i would not keep the bills at my house jmo..