I tuck money aside in an envelope, but dh knows it's there.

I dont hide money...lol...I just dont give him back the change...lol

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CHOOSE TODAY WHOM YOU WILL SERVE!!!

As a counselor I often encourage couple who have seperate accounts to change their system - it is, in my opinion, bad for communication, trust, having to work together, etc...

However, I do get an "allowance" each month and so does my husband - we use it as we see fit and do not have to tell each other on what or explain a silly purchase - as long as it is within our budget.

Erica

I do this too, like after I've had a Yard Sale or when I get B-day $$, I have a special spot where I keep it and DH knows where it is and has never touched it, nor would he.

I'm not sure if he has a stash anywhere, I've never looked, lol!!

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my dh and i agree with this 100% we feel if there is something to hide then there must be honesty and trust issues wich can destroy a relationship. jmo

I have money in accounts he has no access to. I work, he does too, I do the billing and he has no idea about any of it, we have been married 10 yrs and numerous times I try to get him involved and many times he has asked to be involved. He tries and then it overwhlms him and he freaks out! he is a pesimist and he freaks about not having enough in the bank, even though it is enough!
Then he has spending issues, when we got married he was in debt, I was not, have never been, we wroked to getehr to get out of it, he got a CC last year and put $2000 on it in 6 months! I took that card from him and both our money is used to pay it off.
Now he know I am getting a bonus at work and we got a tax refund.as soon as we got it, he wants to buy a greyhound to send to pakistan! that is his thing, he has three there already, I would rather pay off the cc bill he made, till we negotiate and fgure out where the money is going, I put it into a high interest kids account.
so I dont think I am hiding the money, but I need to keep it away from him till we decide what to do. He doesnt beg me to give him money, but he has to control his spendign to keep our hosue running smoothly.
same thing goes for my bionus, it is from my job and mine, but I dont keep it, i will use ti for family expnses, buy the kids something, buy DH something(maybe the friggin dog!) or pay off something.

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We buy things we dont need,
with money we dont have,
in order to impress people
we dont like?
(Ramsey, D)

Eversince I stopped bringing in a paycheck, I stopped having my own checking and savings accts. I figured since nothing is going in them...so, we have a joint savings, a joint checking and a joint money mkt acct. He has his own checking and savings acct. If anyone was hiding any money, it would be him.

dh and I have been married for almost 11 yrs I have worked outside of the home for maybe 3 of those and worked in home for about 4 before we moved here. Now I bring in no income, however dh and I share money. there is no his and mine its simply ours.

as for hiding money I have never had a need to do this, I handle all the bills and finances and he doesn't really care whats in the account as long as we have groceries and the bills are paid, if we are able to go out and spend on a movie or something then great if not he says ok, what movies do we got?

dh hardly ever asks for anything so when he does want to buy something I will usually go above abd beyond to get it for him. He works too hard for us to want something when he asks for so little. The last time my dh asked for something was in Aug of last year, he wanted the new Madden game for his PS2 and he got it.

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Kristi
Mom to Eric, Alex, and Taylor
Happily Married to Joe:love:

He works and it is ours, not HIS!!! That would piss me off! It is His job as the man to provide for His family and that is the way it is in our house! Don't go off on me, you can do what you want, if the woman wants to work that is fine, just not us! seperate accounts, no way!

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