As some of you may know I am a working mom who is working on being a SAHM. Well, starting the middle of January we really started saving and February and March we have been living off my DH's salary and putting all of mine into savings and paying for expenses we won't have when I'm home.

Now DH is mad at me because he sees how much we could have actually saved for the past 6 years if we would have done this when we were first married. I am a recovering spender and now he actually sees how much I was spending. I'm embarrassed that I did blow a lot of money but I'm proud of myself now and how we are saving. He jokes about it but I know he is mad.

How can I get him to let go of the past and be happy that I've changed?

Everyone changes! Sometimes it is hard to remember that the past is the past. Did he ever spend extra money, just because? I wish I could help you. Both my husband and I are part of the spending problem, so he has nothing to say about the condition we are in unless he looks in the mirror too! I wish you luck. Just remember how you are changing things and how exciting the future can be!

You can't change the past, you can only change your future!

Hugs

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Theresa
Mom of 3 boys and 1 girl

Can you use a frying pan on the side of his head?!?! It seems to be a quick and instant fix! lol
I don't know what to tell you other than to remind him that you COULD still be doing it the "old" way, and he needs to be grateful that you are trying to change. And, surely there is something in HIS past that he has changed for the better, too.

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Perfect!

I'm proud of you...

We are all imperfect beings. You accept hubby with his imperfections and love him dearly. Thank goodness you're now working together to reach your goals. Remind him that spending is a coping mechanism especially when we're feeling stressed. You're going to need his support to change your habits.

Just don't let him try to convince you to keep working so you can build up the savings even further! Life as a SAHM is wonderful - for the entire family.

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Thanks ladies so much for your encouragement. I especially like the frying pan idea LOL

Cookie - I won't let him talk me into working more to build up the savings more. I want more than anything to be a SAHM and have already lost too much time with my kids as it is.

Thanks again!

We had the same kind of problem happen in our family. When I stopped working and paying off cc's and DH was left to do it. My check also covered all the extras so he is SHOCKED at how much money is gone now, and how much he has to put out.

He really does appreciate my 'little side job' now, but on the downside he is also like, "how could you have this many cc's!?"

But he is seeing that I have changed, as I HAVE stopped spending. It just took some time.

i will just say good for you!!! the past is the past you can only move forward...just think you are building a little nest egg so that there is money in case of an emergency...tell him it could be worse lol..

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Good For you. Hey We live and learn. And We all make mistakes. The only thing to say now is that you had a problem but you fixed it. End of story. I hope you continue to save. Good Luck.

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