OP..don't feel bad if you guys fight about money! Its a normal thing..DH and I have been together for 15 years and for the first 5 we just could not get on the same page with the moola. We are both very independant people, and we like things done the way we like them done. Well..after a few years of that not working, we realized that we love e/o enough to knock it off basically. And we changed our tune.
I just don't want you to feel like you guys are not the norm. A LOT of couples argue over money, its the leading cause of divorce in our country. It's normal.
Just try and work it out.
I have a hard time beliveing that anyone in a healthy marriage has not argued AT ALL with their spouse. I mean its a normal, healthy thing to do. And considering we are all imperfect people..I don't know just find that hard to belive.
Anyway..DOn't feel bad OP.
DH and I are very much in love and have argued about money. I would advise you to sit down with your spouse and openly and honestly communicate your thoughts about money to one another. Then write out a master budget and stick to it. Allowing each of you some "play" money.
Good Luck!

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Nicole

We have been married almost 7 years and have Never fought about $. We are 95% on the same page (if we were 100% we'd be the same person, and of course we are different people). That's not to say we don't have Any differences. Dh tends to be more impulsive and want to spend, and I tend to want to save for a big item. I can usually convince him to wait at least for the big things. But we've never fought about $ at all.

The only time we "argued" about money was the night after my surgery and he was a bit freaked about about me dying. He got sort of angry with me asking what bills needed to be paid, where stuff was, etc. I know it was his way of coping with stuff.

Other than that, we rarely, rarely argue about money.

It is totally true. and very possible. Neither dh or I have arguing type personalities. Not saying we agree on everything, but we have never raised our voices at each other. If we do not agree we usually take some tiime to think about things, then find out the other persons reasoning behind their beliefs. Then we agree, compromise or agree to disagree. Some people just do not argue and dh and I am 2 of those people.

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Everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. James 1:19

Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. 1 Corinthians 9:24

We do not fight about money, we do discuss money so we can stay on track.

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DS-3

We've never fought about money and we never will. I am a firm believer in having separate accounts. I really don't want to have to explain every $10 purchase to somebody else (DH and I are in complete agreement on this - we both like our independence). We have 1 joint account for savings for larger type things, but everything else is separate. We each have our own responsibilities (he buys gas, groceries, cable, phone, etc) and I pay the rent, hydro and car insurance. It works well for us.

My parents (who have been married 53 years) have also never fought about money - and their accounts are joint. They both don't care what the other decides to spend/buy and are not controlling of each other. I wasn't raised in a house of people fighting over money EVER. I really don't have that issue in my life. My parents were never in debt and always lived within their means. Their house was paid off after about 6 years (something that would be very difficult nowadays since the average price in our city is at about $570K right now, sigh). They've always paid cash for their vehicles, plus they keep them for a long time. I learned a lot from the way my parents live.

We usually don't but I have been wanting to save for things in the house and vacation--Dh has that jeep that today he had to go to Ft. Smith for parts again-- another almost $200.00, and with gas the way it is! This is 2 trips in 1 day! I told him to wait until tomorrow and we could do a Sams run but no he had to have it now --so the jeep can sit in building another 2 weeks! He made up for spending he said by getting me my Mission Magic DVD--w/ Rick Springfiled in it. It was 20.00 for the box set! Oh I asked for it--he did not do this out of kindness. So today when I go with dd to her Dr. appt. I think I am going to get just a couple of basic things and they are going to eat what we have in the house for groceries the next week or so. I hate to spend so much for gas! It makes me a really crabby person!

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The only time we fight about money is when he wants to give to his family more and I want to give them less.
We have very different spending habbits, but when it comes to our finance we are good at compromising. It's when it comes to IL's, that's usually a problem.

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Lena

We are very much on the same page financially speaking, so I consider us lucky. We frequently discuss where and how we should spend/invest our money, and don't always TOTALLY agree, but almost always we can come to a conclusion we both feel comfortable with. Arguments, none come to mind.

It would be hard to have a spouse that viewed money differently, and apparently a LOT of couples do argue about money. Don't the experts say it's one of the top reasons couples divorce? I do think that financial pressures can be really stressful in a marriage. Not having enough to pay the bills can cause couples to blame each other and drive them apart when they should be working together to formulate a plan as a team.

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