We rarely talk about money because DH and I know what has to be done. Although sometimes when I bring the subject up he gets mad at me because he feel like a "failure" to provide enough money for his family. That's why I don't bring the subject up that often because I feel bad. I told him numerous time that its not about not making enough its about being smart and knowing what we have coming in and out. We had our big talk two weeks ago and we finally on the same page. Thank God.

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We used to argue about it quite a bit. I'm a spender and he's a saver. However, we got on the same page about 5 months ago and haven't argued about it once since.

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Vicki
Mama to Princess, 5 and Wild Thing, 3
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DH and I are not arguers on any topic. We've been together 17 years (dating & married) and only raised our voices twice that I can remember. Neither time was about money.

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Homeschooling Mom to Daniel (12 Years), Andrew (9 Years), Stephen (7 Years) and Emily (3 Years)

My husband and I don't really fight about money though sometimes we get a little stressed. We make mistakes but we aren't really into blaming the other, thankfully. Actually I think we each will blame ourselves more so. I did find your comment about your husband feeling like a "failure" interesting - that has come up with my husband once or twice before and I know I was completely shocked because I never have felt that way about him. It must be a guy thing!

We don't fight about money but there have been times it has made things tense. Dh never really understood the value of saving and was a big spender (I'm talking hundreds at a time) and he's still a spender but only wants to spend and doesn't because he realizes how much debt we have and how much we need to save.

There were times in the beginning that I would get really upset about money but it was because he didn't understand where I was coming from. Now we each understand the others views and priorities and are working together. Our goal is to pay off bills, save, and for me to get to stay home this fall when the baby comes. We both are making sacrifices to reach this goal and we are happy with it. We know its best for our family.

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I don't think we ever have. We share the same values about being thrifty and debt, we share the same interests with the exception of maybe 1 or 2 each so there is very little we do without each other.

We talk about money all the time. Debate about it yes a real fight not really. I feel it is important that we are on the same page. Yeah I have to shoot DH's plans down when they get to spendy but in general we are both willing to not have all our wants to make ends meet. I am more of the planner and he mainly goes along with things

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Kimberly Proud Mommy to Bethany Rose April 2006 &

Organizer of the Coupon Clippers of Tacoma

We NEVER fight over it. Ever. I am with AyeOKay. We rarely argue at all...we simply agree to disagree! I am a very stable and secure person, but I grew up in a house that yelling/screaming/fighting was simply not a part of life. Maybe because of that, I would FREAK OUT if dh ever was to yell at me! LOL

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We don't ever fight about money either. Now we HAVE had "discussions" about spending more on something than one of us thinks something should cost (usually me), or if one of us spends without telling the other on something pretty big. But for the most part, we each spend what we want and think it's okay for the other to do that. I'm VERY frugal so my dh nevers complains about what I spend and he's learned to be frugal from me. Now I must admit we're not financially strapped, so maybe if money was tighter we'd fight more.

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My dh and I do not fight either about anything. We have been married for 22 years and I don't think we have ever had a fight.

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