Many thanks to your replies.
Whatever issues couples do have, over SAHMing and whose calling the "shots."
Ultimately, its for the welfare and best interest of the children and the family.
Whatever is good for the greater number, as the adage goes, then, be it!

For the most part I don't feel guilty! Of course my dh has been out of town this week and work has been pilling on him and what do I do to get out of the house - go shopping! I feel a little guilty right now!

I also feel guilty when he's stressed out about his job (either the amount of work, or the stability), especially since I'm getting to do the 1 think I've always wanted to do... stay home and raise my kids.

It helps that he wants me home too, and I'm trying to cut back on my spending... we'll see!

Yeah I do feel guilty sometimes but then again I look at how much day care cost now these days and half of my paycheck will be going there. I used to work and we were making close to $2500 every two weeks with a car payment and the insurance. That was it. We never thought about saving money back then now I wished we did. I would love to help out DH right now until we pay all our debts but who wants to hire a pregnant woman anyways? DS demands a lot of attention from me and the only way I could work in our area is at night meaning I can work as a stocker in the store but that requieres heavy lifting. DH is thinking about getting a second job but because he is in the military its hard to be at two place at one time. Our plan basically right now is to have this baby due in November and wait until we get back in the states and by then the oldest will be in school and this next baby soon to follow then I can start working. As of now we are doing good but I would love to get the debts paid off. I'm not picky though any work will do for me as long as I can bring extra money in and help out a bit.

I feel terribly guilty and sometimes useless. I worry our girls wont respect me bc unfortunately I didnt respect my own SAHM much. My sister assures me that that situation was for different reasons, but I still cant help it.

As our girls get older and I actually could go back to work while they are at school, I think that staying home would be better for my marriage. DH works long unpredictable hours 7 days a week. If I were to do 100% for the kids and my previous career, I think I would resent DH for not pitching in bw 6 am and 7 pm each day!

I felt a bit guilty when I started staying home, only because I was used to making money and working a LOT! Now, as time has gone by, I don't feel near as guilty. Any time I do, my husband reminds me of how great our son is turning out to be. Not to mention he no longer gets colds and the flu from day care. He used to be sick almost every other week with something different. Now, since I am home with him, he has only been ill once since January! Not bad if you ask me!

Also, if my son was in day care every day he would be sitting in the same house with the same kids doing the same things day after day. Watching TV and fighting for the baby sitters attention through 10 other kids. Now, he has my full attention. I take my son on different play dates so that he gets that whole "socialization" thing. We go to different play grounds all week, the local water park, grandmas' house, the malls, Mom's club field trips like museums, fire station tours....you name it!!! It is so much fun and I get to watch my son grow up!!!

Sure, I could be bringing home a lot of money if I was working full time right now.....but there is plenty of time for me to do that when my son is older. Right now, I am enjoying our time together because I know the time will go quickly.

NO MORE FEELLING GUILTY for me!!!!!!!

Since I am not staying home yet I can only share what is causing me to worry and feel guilty about the fact that I am going to be staying home in October.

While I do realize that dh and I both feel like this is what will be best for our little girl and our family I can't help but feel like he will be getting cheated.

That without my second income we will definitely have to cut back on some of the perks we enjoy now and things will be tighter. I don't want him to feel like he isn't doing a good enough job supporting us if money is tight some weeks.

I still do the majority of the housecleaning, and cooking now and all the grocery shopping so I also feel like if I don't get enough accomplished during the day I'm slacking off somehow. Which my dh says is silly but I can't help that its the way I feel. I feel that way now. I feel like I'm not doing enough (and I'm not doing as much as I normally would) but dh just keeps telling me I'm still doing a lot, I'm growing a baby!

I think to make the transition easier I will be cutting back on things for myself to make the transition easier on dh. Which I guess could lead to resentment for some but I'm hoping it doesn't come off that way. Dh says all the time how he feels bad because he always gets stuff and I don't ever get anything. But to me if he's already spent a bunch of money I'm afraid to spend any in case we need it for a bill or something. Maybe that's just me. So I'm sure this will be even worse when I'm not working. Now if I want something I use my paycheck to get it but once I'm not working I will definitely feel the need to evaluate my spending even more. I know this is dumb but I can't help it.

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i don't feel guilty for staying home just as i did not feel guilty when i worked...we are just at a place in our lives where me not working is cheaper than to pay daycare for 2 kids and one before and after school care... i always wanted to stay home but did not think it was possible ya know what we are no better off or worse off for that matter since i quit work our priorities have changed big time we no longer need that new car or all the latest stuff and as a whole we have found that our family is so much happier so in the end it has been a blessing for us...but that does not mean that anyone who is working should ever feel guilty either i think we are all just trying to find the right way for our families.

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This is me too, but he makes much more than I do. On the other hand, since I'm not making money, I figure it's my job to SAVE as much as I can.

I never felt guilty until my cc debt got us into trouble. We are paying off debt now and I am working 32 hours a week at a job I love. I feel better now that I am contributing financially. However, now I rub it in dh's face CONSTANTLY that I have two full time jobs. The kids and house, and the hospital where I work.

I don't feel guilty...