So the other day I had about $60 cash left in my purse. Planning on saving it for this weekend for our anniversary so we don't have to take it out of this paycheck. Well, I knew dh had to put gas in so there was about 10 or 15 gone. I looked in my purse this morning to put it away so I wouldn't spend it and its gone! What does he do w/ that much money. I found $15 laying on the entertainment center but what about the other $20. I could just strangle him! The money just burns a hole through his pocket and I know I'll hear about how much I spend this weekend on groc., but he can blow and not even remember where it went! This is mainly a vent but I just wanted to know if anyone else's dh does this. Its his money, but then again, I still think he should be responsible w/ it. Am I wrong?

It is an unspoken rule that money in eachother's vehicles, pockets, wallets etc is off limits. I can stretch my money pretty far and I enjoy doing so over the week. I also save $4 a week so that on Fridays I can get a sandwhich from the local deli--dh knows this.

I would just express this clearly to your husband--that you would rather he left the money alone or ask.

My DH will do this on occasion. For the most part he will ask do you have any money and then ask for it. If i would do that however- he would freak and say- I give you my whole paycheck (I take care of the bills and everything else!).

Yup my dh does this too. It drives me insane because we don't spend money, HE does. He has NO money, just what I give him. And he'll ask me every other day for $20. For what?? Oh for lunch, a drink ect. Make your own dang sandwich and bring a soda! Here is $2 to buy a coffee if you want. GEEZE! WE aren't made of money here! That stupid money tree in my back yard just won't bloom!

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Meghan8.Samantha7,Cameron4

nope dh asks if he can even have any extra money for the week and most of the time the answer is no....he takes his lunch to work everyday and i make and buy some snacks and chips so he is not buying it out of the vending machine at work....but i could totally see how that would be irritating i think you need a hiding spot!!!

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Actually I can't imagine mine doing that. He'll ask if I have any cash but he usually stays out of my wallet without telling me. And I usually stay out of his as well.

brensmom-
What does your dh say when you tell him no?

Years ago my dh used to take money out of my wallet and when I asked him about he would deny it (at one point I thought I was going nuts!) then I found out he had a serious scratch ticket addiction. He went to Gamblers Anonymous meetings for over a year and hasn't touched a scratch ticket since (or the little bit of money in my wallet).

Yes he does take money out of my purse every tuesday night to buy me my weekly latte. We have a strict policy on how much cash we take out and what its used for. Our Rule is cash is the only thing we can use when eating out and so if he wants to go out on friday night with the guys he needs to not spend the change durring the week. DH I think is better at not spending cash then I am.

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dh only takes when I he asks. The one thing that bothers me about what u said is it's his money. You are wrong it is both of your money. You work just as hard as he does. My dh used to do this kindof. He never gave me money until I aksed and then I had to justify why I needed it. It was as if I was a child. I was ready to leave him over it. Then he was laid off and the roles reversed, man the bulb went off. My solution at the time was to make dh pay me, literally. I found the average day care price and told him my new pay. he was not allowed to touch "my money". when he realized how much he would have to pay he was not happy. it was a long hard road for us and every now and then dh does something really hurtful still. the differnece is he can usually tell as soon as he does it. of course he just tries to blow it off instead of apologize but that's my dh's thing.


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