I'm very sad right now - Page 2

Kellyandgirls · 07-12-2007, 08:53 AM

Your children have all there Physical and Emotional needs met!! you are doing GREAT!!! dont listen to her!! she is just jeoulous cause your child is doing soo well!!! and you are gonna have another one!!!
I think a child who doesnt have EVERYTHING is gonna be Far better in life!!

mommymarie · 07-12-2007, 08:58 AM

First of all, this woman seems very jealous to me. A friend (or normal person I should say) would be happy for you, a child is always good news when desired by the parents.

Second, I do not see how she can buy all these things being a SAHM and her husband making 1000$ per week. She sounds like she is living the millionaire's life on a 52,000$ per year salary, something does not add up.

Third, I would certainly not loose any time being sad over her comments. She is the one with the problem not you. If you love your kids and take good care of them they are the luckiest kids in the world. Children need good loving parents not new DVD's or all the other superficial stuff. It's all a quesiton of choices and it seems to me like you're making the right choices for your family according to your situations.

Also maybe you are more sensitive because of the changes in hormones with the pregnancy (did that to me). Don't beat yourself up and listen to your husband, he seems like a good man.

(sorry so long)

Tinamarie · 07-12-2007, 09:01 AM

I am so sorry she said those things to you. Sometimes you just have to look at the bottom line and say people are more important than money. You are spending time with your child and will spend time with your baby. That is what your kids will remember, not how you didn't have expensive cars or purses. As for buying all kinds of new stuff for a child that is a quick way to raise a demanding, unappreciative kid. Of course we would all like to have money in the bank and no bills at all, but we make do with what God gives us. I think she is jealous because you have been a SAHM with your children since they were little and she has only now gotten to be a SAHM and she feels like she missed out on all those important years with her kids so they could acquire shiny vehicles and "stuff". You are doing a good job as a mom and library time, reading to your child and just loving them is most important.

taylyn · 07-12-2007, 09:16 AM

I agree with what Everyone else is saying....

And is this Woman in Debt?? It sounds like it to me.....Either that or they Have No savings or maybe they Get "family " help like alot of people I Know Get.

One Girl I Know - her Parents Buy Their Girls ENTIRE wadrobe Every season -

Another I Know - her Parents Pay for her Daughter to Go to An Expensive Preschool.

And my brother of all people Has it all - a great Job , A Stay at home Wife..... their kids are involved in everything , Have ONLY Name brand clothes - And Guess what ?? They are 65,000 in debt....

On the Outside it looks like " wow they have it all" But Until People Really tell you What is the Deal - You never know.

I know how fast money goes ( Don't we all!) And If you are spending all your money on Nice clothes , purses , etc, The Money is Gone FAST - Unfourtunatly I know from Experience

So Often people Live off of credit - and making the Payments every month is More than enough.

And as far as People having kids....

I always say as long as I am not Paying for them( meaning with our federal tax money) - then I don't Care.

And Doesn't Your Neighbor Know Pregnancy Can Just happen

Its Not like we all are Fortunate enough to Plan it all out and Conceive when we want to.

I was a teenage Mom - and I Paid Every dime of that Hospital bill off myself - Took me 4 Years - but I Did it!!

And our last one we had- I was using Birth Control - so Go figure -

Another thing I Grew up with Dirt poor kids - Who are now Docters -

And I Grew up with Weathy Spoiled Kids who Are Drug addicts -

And Vice versa -

Aubrey's mom · 07-12-2007, 09:22 AM

I'm glad my parents didn't wait until they were financially set. My sister and I probably wouldn't be born yet!!!!

Having money has nothing to do with being a GOOD parent. Your children are cared for and loved. Don't let people get you down. So many people spoil their children with gifts, clothes, etc. but don't spend any quality time with them. Those spoiled children grow up to be spoiled adults who can't function on their own in the real world.

Keep your chin up. Enjoy the excitement of being a mommy and having another little one on the way!!!

pandi410 · 07-12-2007, 09:27 AM

Don't let her get to you, please!!

There is so much more to being a parent than plopping your child in front of a brand new DVD! Your kids will have fond memories b/c of the love you give them more so than if they get new toys every week.

You know how much you want and love your kids so ignore that girl. She's probably lonely with her Dh gone and needs to make someone else sad to boost herself up

ryans_mom10 · 07-12-2007, 10:20 AM

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Originally Posted by BlueSky

Sadly, though my mother in law is the same thing. Because of her "experience" when DH was very little she wished that we could've waited to have kids. Financial reason of course and for us to have each other without the kids first. We are not doing bad financially but we would like to have some money in savings just in case something happens. She kind of look down on me sometimes when I tell her that I shop in Thrift Stores

sometimes I feel embarass about telling her. She's probably thinking that I shop these stores because we don't have a lot of money to spend on clothes. Which is true and I'm not planning on spending hundreds of dollars on clothes either.I just feel scared sometimes to stand up because I don't want any conflict between us. She's a good person and all but I feel awkward when I'm their house.

My Mom sounds like your MIL.pay no mind to her either.Smile and run from her as soon as you can.

When I tell my MIL that I got something at a yard sale or second hand store and tell her how good of a deal I got she is just amazed by it and tells me she is so glad her son married such a frugal shopper

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carlitasway · 07-12-2007, 10:21 AM

Buying every want for a child does not good parenting make. As long as your children have food, shelter, clothes and LOVE that is all that matters. For all you know this woman could be in debt up to her eyeballs. Some people feel the way to show love is by buying everything under the sun. It's the quality time and actions that make love. Don't waste another minute worrying about the foolishness that came out of that woman's mouth.

2littleladies · 07-12-2007, 11:26 AM

If you were on welfare or homeless then I can see her point. Otherwise she should keep her rude mouth shut. IF she thinks designer clothes is the only way to take good care of your children Im afraid her kids are learning all the wrong things. My kids have lots of used clothes and they dont even realize it. There are a lot of reasons for buying used besides money. Think of all the people who benifeit. You get what you need at a low cost, the charity that runs the shop both provides jobs and money for people who need help.NOt to mention its good for the environment, less of the land fills.
Dont let anybody make you feel like you cant have kids becuase you are not a millionar.

CarrieC · 07-12-2007, 11:44 AM

Bluesky--first of all a great big hug to you!!!! Now here's the truth you have already given your children a marvelous gift--YOU. Love them, treasure them and teach them to be good people--they will not be damaged if they can't have everything under the sun right this minunte. I have 3 kids 21, 20 at the end of this month and 18 and trust me there were times we didn't have 2 nickles to rub together, but my kids are really nice people who care about each other! God bless you! Carrie