How rude and cruel. There is NEVER a "perfect" time to have a baby, and money is NEVER a substitue for what a child really needs...someone who loves him/her with all their hearts. There is NOTHING wrong with having used or borrowing instead of buying, as long as you are able to meet the basic needs your child has. You quit feeling bad RIGHT NOW!!! SHE is the one to feel bad. For shame on her.

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She obviously has some issues. I am an older mom and I wish I started younger to have had more kids. maybe that is it. did she have conception problems?

also-it seems kind of skewed for anyone making $48K a year to own a 50K (?) car and $1000 purses. doesnt sound like she should be giving financial advice.

Oh hon, don't let what that woman say bother you. You and your dh
are doing a very good job. She should have kept her opinion
to herself. And I agree with the other ladies. My mom and dad didn't
have a lot of money but they showed us plenty of love, taught us how
important it was to have fun and treat each other with respect. And I'm proud
to say because of what my parents taught us my brothers and I always treat
people with kindness and respect. And when someone needs help we reach
out to help no matter what. Not to mention we now know the importance of
a dollar. And my dh was raised the same way. Now we are passing this down
to our children. And from what I've read your doing very well. But I like you
get my feeling hurt very easy when people say stuff like this. So big hugs to
you.

money isn;t what makes you a good parent. i am sure you have a huge amount of love in supply and thats what your children need. theydon't want you to buy them lots of stuff, they want you to play with them. its none of her business, and as long as your kids are fed, clothed, and housed, then you are in good shape! your a much better parent than some out there with an abundance of money in the bank. don't let her get you down, you deserve this baby, adn this baby deserves you for a mom!

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How is this HER business???

If ALL Of us on God's Green Earth waited to the exact perfect time to have a baby, our species would die out. Who cares that this baby is being born into debt?? Its your choice to make, and your situtaion, so its your problem. Unless she is paying your bills, she has absolutly NO right to say anything! So your pregnant and you have debt; yah so?? what can you do about that now?? :eyeroll:

Seriously, why did you let her get to you?? She just sounds RUDE, and probably one of those people that is always right. My last kid was born in the midst of our rock bottom, and he is one of the reasons we hit rock bottom. At the time, I had to stop working full time because Ihad 3 kids under 4 and there was NO way I could afford that babysitting bill on my salary. BUT I made it work. I had a lot of help in the way of my mom and MIL, and my dh worked his fingers to the bone, but would I change it? NOPE. I have my baby boy, my sweetie and I couldn't imagine a world without him.

AND don't forget that God would never give you more than you can handle. Everything happens for a reason. There is a reason why God chose you to become this baby's mommy, and why this was the time for you to carry him/her. Because He knew you were the best person for this job, and there is no better time than the present. Hang in there!

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I just have to say that my parents had money and kept my brothers and sisters in desinger clothes and expensive toys. They had all that they wanted, except my parents attention. I however was raised by my grandparents ( whole other story ) who lived in a tiny trailer and usually didnt have enough to pay the bills each month much less buy me expensive things. I was so lucky to have these people raise me and would not have it any other way. I know that they truely loved me and were happy to have me and that I was never a burden for them, even though sometimes they would have to send me to school in handme downs that werent the latest fashion, and you know what? I was fine with that, cause I knew that I had people that loved me, not something I could say for others. I think that one of my best memories with my granny was Garage Sale Saturdays, we would go out and look for the best sales and we always had a blast, we werent spending a lot of money but some of those talks in that car have been the best of my life. When my grandparents passed away a few years ago I didnt think of all that they bought me but instead all that they gave me, and every bit of it came from their hearts not a store. So if you love your kids every thing else is just icing on the cake and the material things wont be what they remember. They will remember the gifts that you gave them that didnt cost a thing but are truelly priceless.

Hey, umm.....don't you all live in an apartment? If she's so financially secure, why does she not own a home?

Forget her. She doesn't know anything.

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Christine's Corner



Mom to Matt, 3 years and Catie, 7 months!

Here is the reality (from my perspective)

I have never heard anyone thank their parent for buying them the newest toy when they were children. When we recollect our youth and our relationship with our parents, the best and strongest memories revolve around time - not money. The memories are of fishing trips, cooking, gardening, having stories read to you at bedtime, or of mom's chicken soup when you were sick.

How many of the toys that you had as a child do you remember- or do you want to remember? When our parents are gone, we remember the time spent with them. Not the cost of a piece of plastic.

I urge people to ask children what they want to do. most kids would rather spend time (in a park, a baseball stadium, on a walk) with thier parents that have a new game to junkify the house.

Do not feel bad for anything that you have done. you are giving your children your love, your time, and, your dedication. That is what they need SO MUCH MORE than material excess.

God bless you.

Amanda

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Don't feel bad!! I don't think anyone ever has enough money!! LOL!! I was 21 and prego and we made it..

Your babies are a blessing. Shame on her for trying to take away your happiness. I would never speak to her again and would tell her why if she had the nerve to ask.

Big hugs.