I have lived in my house 4 years and my neighbor across the street has not spoken to me or waived at me once. They are pretty well off, but the husband is very nice and waives all the time and speaks if we see him somewhere. I waived at her in the car when we first moved in. She looked right at me and snubbed me. I guess we're not good enough. I saw her at the post office a few months ago and smiled at her. She stared right through me like I wasn't even there. At first when she wouldn't waive, I was insulted, but then I just thought, who cares? I don't even bother to try and waive at her. If she thinks she's better, then who cares. I decided that I don't need her approval with a little waive. She can jump in the lake for all I care. I just don't let it bother me anymore. If I were you, I wouldn't even bother telling your neighbor what is going on in your life, she just seems like a know it all and you don't need that. If everyone waited until everything was perfect to have kids, they would never have kids.

She is completely wrong!!!! Loving parents are the most important. You are committed to your children it doesn't matter if they were second hand clothes. I buy most of my kids clothes from garage sales/thrift stores b/c I would rather use that money somewhere else.

Please don't listen to anything she says. People either try to lift u up or bring u down to where the feel they are. she clearly feels the need to bring to down so she can feel better about herself as a person. Keep your head up, she doesn't even deserve the attention to have given to her already. You are so much better than that.

allgirls

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Kids don't need things, they need parents that love them. It's not what you have, but how you live. If your children have food, shelter, clothing, and love then they will be fine and they will thrive. The latest and greatest carseat or DVD won't make them any better then the next kid. Be proud of who you are, not what you have! Someone with feelings like that is someone you should probably stay away from....sounds like a bad influence on your kids!

Christine

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Oh my goodness! This woman is obviously having some personal issues! Besides, I am 35, and I can feel it when I try to play with the kids! Oh to be a young mommy again and be able to crawl around on the floor with them again. I would take that over financial stability any day. My kids will remember me playing with them, not the kind of purse I carried, or the fancy clothes.

As for your MIL looking down on you for going to thrift stores...I need to introduce her to MY MIL. She is a professional in her career, (in management with the Health dept in her city) makes good money, travels, gives us money when we need it, always has her hair and nails done...and loves a good deal! Whenever she comes to visit, she and I hit every Goodwill in Charleston County! THAT sounds more like financial stability to me than buying name brands!

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I don't have a problem with these two things at all. If we're doing well and ds has children, I would be happy to shop for them and buy them what they need if ds and his wife would let me!

Double ditto for the preschool. You cannot put a price on education! If I could help my ds and his family in that way I'd do it in a heartbeat - definitely more than the clothes one unless they needed like a winter coat or something. My brother, who has a degree in teaching, gives us $ at the holidays for ds's education and this year I'm using it to send ds to Montessori lessons during the summer, just one on one with the teacher for an hour a week. He is reading so much more proficiently than he did at the end of the school year, and he's not in Kindergarten yet. I don't think money put toward schooling is ever a waste.

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Hear hear! I have a MIL like this too and I applaud her! One thrift store I go to even has a 'designer' section! This woman needs to get with the program. Doesn't she get it that if you shop at stores like this, you have more money in other areas?! Now with ds's clothes I don't buy from the thrift store mainly because I can get brand new merchandise almost cheaper than from the thrift store and it wears better since it is new. But once he gets into adult size clothing guess where we'll be shopping? I bought dh a pair of Ralph Loren shorts for $3 that looked brand new. Now That I can't find in the store!

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