I do but its only like 20-30$ and I do so That If I go out with my firends I can buy myself something!! he gets soo PO at me If I buy a pair of pants etc!! (tho he can every day if he wants too!! plus he goes out to eat every day for work!! so I figure its my little bt of spending money! the sad thing tho is I end up using my mini stash on the kids!! soo it never goes for me anyhow!! oh well!!! (or him) anyhow yes I do just not too much like I said 20-30$ at the most!!!

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Kelly mom to 3 great girls A Peanut, a monkey and a little burrito.

ITA!

How would you ladies feel if you found out your husband was hiding money?

Yup I agree. Plus I know if something were to happen to our relationship my dh would take care of me until I could care financially for myself. If my dh were stashing what if money, it would hurt me...

Me, three. I can't imagine doing that. I do have an account in my name only, but dh is the one that insisted I open it with money I had before we were married. But I would never hide money from him.

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My mom insists I do this but she is also bitterly divorced. I can see doing it for me. I dont' work and I stay home. If dh left me today he'd be okay because he has the monetary job. I, however, am a homemaker so I would be screwed. I don't know if it's so much as being sneaky as being safe. I have not done it but I've been thinking about it. DH and I have a stable marriage as far as I know. That doesn't mean things still can't happen. 'Waiting to Exhale' is a good movie to show you what can happen to a marriage. People don't expect things to happen but they can. I don't think a little just in case planning is wrong. And if things turn out great like I'd like them to I can be like the other poster's aunt and have a nice little savings to spend together.

I guess I would be surprised, but I honestly don't think I would be mad. To me its not really a sneaky, evil thing, its just something I'm doing to protect myself. I mean, lets face it, no one wants to think about getting a divorce, but its always a possibility. Yes, I would like to think my husband would take care of my son and I if something were to happen, but I don't know that for sure and call me a pessimist, but aren't most divorces ugly at some point?? I just like knowing I have a small back-up plan. (By small I mean small, I haven't saved a huge fortune by depositing rebate checks! ) Another reason I feel ok with it is because I've done it before and DH found out about it and wasn't mad. I had been saving some money on the side for Christmas (for a present for DH & DS) and then we ended up needing it to register our car and when I pulled the money out he was surprised but then happy about it. He said I was being thrifty (not sneaky!) behind his back and didn't seem to mind at all. I think my grandma is right in saying everyone should have some "rainy day money" and another reason too is that if something major were to happen -- not just something between DH and I, I'm talking he loses his job, one of us is disabled, etc it can't hurt to have a little money to tide us over ya know? Everyone has a different perspective about it but I guess that's what makes this a great topic for discussion!!

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Mommy to Dakota, Wife to James
Proud Air Force Family

I see nothing wrong with saving money, I just don't see why it has to be a secret.

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I guess I just don't understand why it is a secret. Why not just put it in a joint savings or money market account just for emergencies or "just in case"?

All that matters is what you think about it...kwim? It's not something that I would do, but it seems to give you peace of mind...

We must have been posting at the same time. That's almost exactly what I said.

I dont really hide it.I just put it somewhere else and he knows where it is.He knows it is there if we NEED it and I am the one who determines on whether or not we need it.

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