I don't, but I can see why some people would want to. Even if my hubby left me and was a jerk he would be fair about the finances.

When my mom was planning to leave my stepdad she started getting "cash back" and saving up cash in a hollowed out book.

to the OP - If a divorce ever comes about - you will have to share your stash money... keep in t cash or don't keep it at all.

Me personally, I would never be that dishonest with my partner, but to each their own. I also have a partner that is responsible with money, so I don't have to worry about going over budget or whatever and wanting that stash money to be my safety net

Me personally, no. It probably all depends on your spouse and his personality. I know at my house, if I did this and he found out that I secretly had a whole other account that he didn't know about, the argument that would follow would be horrible. My husband trusts me with managing the checking, savings, etc. He usually justs asks periodically where we are at. So for me to blind side him like that would not end well. I'm like a lot of others...after 10 years of marriage and 3 kids, if we separated, he wouldn't leave me high and dry (unless maybe I was unfaithful.)

Yes I secretly stash money.

These posts are very interesting! Just goes to show that everyone is different. . . . . . . doesn't make it wrong.

I have my own checking account and savings account (My checking account has his name on it, but his does NOT have mine). In fact my savings account was used for making my house payment when I was single. I had the same amount of money taken out of each paycheck and swiched to my savings then the bank would draft my savings each month for the house payment. After I sold my house(when we got married) I continued to have that money put into my savings. My husband knows I have it but it is still in my name only and that is the money I use for trips, x-mas, B-days, or when I want to buy the kids something frivolous. I also usually have cash around the house that I have hidden (that usually doesn't amount to much) but I know its there. He has his stash (in a fire proof safe) and I know its there, but I would never touch it. With the bills, he pays some I pay some and we don't really even talk about it anymore.

My car is in my name only, but that's because everytime he needed money he would sell my vehicle. Don't get me wrong I have always had something to drive, but I use to have a car I drove to work and a "go to town vehicle" and when he wanted to change vehicles my "go to town" was the one that got sold or traded, because I didn't really need it. Truthfully I didn't cause everywhere we go, we go together in his "go to town". (My husband has his own business and has a differnet vehicle for each job he has to do).

I think every woman should have her own stuff. Money, vehicle etc. I've seen too many of my friends that think he will take care of her and the kids, and that works right up until he gets a new girlfriend/wife and when she gets upset things change. I mean how would you feel if you husband was having to support his ex?

I fell in love with my husband when I was 13 and he was 17 (Saw him a neighbors birthday party one night). Didn't date him until I was 21 and we have been together 15 years now. I have no intention of ever leaving him, but its been said before "You just never know".

I thiknk this is a great post for all women to see the finacial diffrences in others lives and marrages and how they are handled. As for some whom can ask for $ for what they want to do with it and others whom have to save some for them. I don't think there is anything worng with it. I have one. Mine is not from our momey tho my sil stayed with us for a while and was paying rent. For me that was for me cooking and cleaning up after her butt some I kept every other month. I use it for when we are short a month or for when we take a long weekend trip. I used only $50 on my for a pedicure becuase that is one thing my dh thinks is a waste of money and since I don't "earn" go to an office/ our side the house to earn my money I can't get one. My dh is a spender if there is anyting left in the month he works hard he can spend it how he chooses latley he has been getting better and knowing that we should be paying off more debt them spending but for the past years prior he was spend spend spend. So not only do I do it for me but so that we don't go under.

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I stash cash in my room from time to time when I get it. My dh handles the finances and gives me cash for spending. He also uses our money for other things like stocks, his mother, investments, etc. I never question anything he does, because I know his intentions are to better our family. He knows that I stash cash, and it doesn't bother him in the least. Just because he knows that I always use it on the family or something for the house. As for the future, I never worry about that. My motto is "It always works itself out!" I can be very independent if I need to be and my dh knows that. So no matter what everything will be fine. Life is too short to worry, I like to enjoy it day by day! Just keep your faith by your side.

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I have never done this but am surely thinking about it just as a joint effort with my hubby. We really need to do it b/c we are in the hardest financial situation we have ever been in. I was just telling him today that I wish I had a drawer that I could open up and say Thank God we have money LOL

I don't keep anything from my dh. Honestly, he doesn't care one bit about money. I handle all the bills and have some savings in both of our names and I keep some aside here, but he knows about it, although he has no idea how much there is. If for any reason we divorced, he isn't the kind of man that would leave the mother of his children with nothing.

I can see why some would decide to do it though. It's just not me.

I have a system in my house that I do the bills. HE gives me his whole check except for an allowance that he is allowed to spend on gas, lunches, etc. If I have money left after paying bills and buying groceries then I transfer it to my savings account. I don't tell him only because he is kind of a spender and I usually end up having to use it eventually. I am really trying to save money for us. If he has it or knows about it he will want to spend it like going out to eat or something and we just don't need to do that kind of stuff. I would really like to suprise him one year with a trip for our anniversary or something.

I also stash money for my daughter. Whenever she gets Easter or Christmas money I put it in her piggy bank, sometimes my mom or MIL will drop in $1's or $5's when they come over. I also told him that if I find change on the floor or in the laundry it's hers not his.

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