fess up i did not tell my dh that we were in a hole but years ago when they sent a note about foreclosing on the house i had to fess up there was no way around it. we borrowed the money got back on track and now we have no secrets about money... it will eat you alive if you don't tell...i made myself sick over bills so fess up take the rath and move on it will be better in the end. its scary but you can do it and it will be a big weight lifted off your shoulders.

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SILENCE IS GOLDEN BUT DUCK TAPE IS SILVER.

I agree with everyone else. You need to talk to your husband about this. Incurring debt will also affect his credit score and could really cause both of you more problems down the line. This situation will only get worse if you let it go.

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i deal with all the finances, dh doesn't care to. as long as everything is paid we're good. i don't consult him on every purchase but if it is over 100.00 dollars on a single item then i will consult him and let him know i am getting it. heknows about all of our debt and our moeny situation, and leaves it to me to take care of.

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Kimberley

"there is nothing to worry about, just plenty to think about" from an episode of Extreme Makeover House edition

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No hidden debt here. Our only debt right now is our house. My husband takes care of the bill paying. I don't consult him on every purchase made, but would probably talk to him before making a large purchase. He does the same. If it is a small purchase, he makes it, but usually discusses large purchases first. I would tell my husband if I were you. That way you can work out a plan to pay it off and move on. If it were my husband incurring debt I would want to know about it. Him keeping a secret from me would do more damage in my opinion than the actual debt would.

Put the shoe on the other foot--if he were being dishonest how would you feel? I have complete control of the finances in our home, but not only do I bore my husband to death with all the details of our money situation, I don't even unpack a Target bag until I have a chance to show him exactly what I bought that day. It adds accountability--plus, you can only attempt to justify your purchases with, "but it was 75% off!" so many times before the routine gets stale! Good luck! Hopefully you've underestimated your husband's capacity for forgiveness.

I don't but I could very easily. Actually I could probably have a stash of $10,000 and my husband wouldn't know. I don't but it would be kind of cool if I did!

Fess up now!! Trust me, about 6 years ago, I had racked up about $10k in credit card debt, and he didn't have a clue...until Discover decided to take they wanted to take me to court. It really makes it hard to trust someone when they're hiding something that big, you know!!? It's taken us awhile to get back on track, but we did, and we did it TOGETHER!!

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~*~ Angie~*~
Wife to Brian
SAHM to Sarah & Andy 2/11/2000

My hubby knows all the finances. I believe it is only right. He works very hard to earn our money. We are both firm believers that he works outside the home and brings the money in, but I work inside the home and earn that money too. But that also means we should both know where all of the money goes. I would never feel right about hiding spending or any financial choices from him, just as I would be very hurt if he did it to me.

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Jenifer
Proud wife to one amazing man
Proud mom to four awesome kids

Have a safe and blessed New Year!

I've been there........the pp who talked about her dh getting a phone call while she was in the shower could have been me.....except that he got the mail instead of me one day, and oh boy was it bad.....but like she said, it wasn't the money, it was the fact that I had hidden it from him.......it truly hurt him. so, i say, take a deep breath, and just go talk to him.......i wish i had! it was really hard for us for a while afterwards, because he didn't trust me at all, but in the end we're better now because of it. feel free to pm me if you want to talk about it!!

He handles all the money, credit cards, etc. I couldn't hide something even if I wanted to, lol.

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