If you guys remember from my past thread about our friend who used our phone to call her husband in Romania in October (yes she call cellphone) well, our phone bill arrive and it was $250. She owe us $103. She promised she would pay us when the bill arrives and unfortunately she keep "forgetting" about it. Two weeks ago she said "no problem" she would pay us. Same thing she said last week. Well they got paid this week and she said they are having it rough. She knew about this since October so are you telling me 4 paychecks later you couldn't save $103 to pay your friend? and they have money to buy alcohol (bunch of them) and a $100 stuff to go with her IPOD this paycheck. Knucklehead DH decided to buy her an $89 gift (bluetooth) for her IPOD. So yes, I am angry at him. I wanted to strangle the living crap out of him. He's reasoning? "ohh they bought a $39 Jack Daniels on my birthday" and this is after I told him to buy a gift card for the same amount that they had given him on his birthday. So yes I am angry and I refuse to talk to him or them. Sorry for the vent but I have to let it out before I literally strangle DH today

When my hubby use to do that, I would make a list of stuff that I needed that would be the total of what someone owed us.

Some examples of $103:
$10 for a weeks worth of diapers
$60 for a weeks worth of groceries
$30 for a week fo baby formula
$3 for baby wipes

He got the hint after 3 lists

by that reasoning he should have bought her a $40 gift.. not one that costs 2x as much!

I am with you.

I knew that phonebill was going to come back to haunt you! And your friend knows that you just had a baby. GRRR!

As for your husband -- I can totally see mine doing something like that. Sometimes these men don't think.

I'm sorry about your husband and your friend.

Tell her the phone call is her Xmas gift - that way you are done with it, she won't owe you any money, not that you were going to see the cash anyway. Debt forgiveness is the gift this year.

I'm speechless, and that doesn't happen often.

Any way you can grab the bluetooth and return it? That is so lame-brained. Why is he buying a "her" such an expensive gift, especially when you are pinching pennies? This ...um...isn't right.

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Gosh I wish I could. He did this behind my back. He never talked to me about buying her an expensive gift on her birthday. Not only that it was a slap on my face because I trusted him to do the right thing but he didn't. When I confronted him about why wasn't he listening to me about buying her a gift card for the same amount they had given him on his birthday he told me that I didn't mention or "talk" to him about it. So now, he is calling me a liar. ITs been two days and I'm still upset and I can't let this thing go. I'm mad and disappointed more with DH than our friend (not so called friend anymore). I don't understand how friends can just pissed you off sometimes. You are trying to be nice and all. I even put a clean linen in the guest room for them to sleep in even though they haven't taken a shower for 5 freaking days (yes she mentioned about this info to me and they had not wash their comforter in 5 months because their washing machine and dryer is broken.) TOO MUCH INFO so they brought their dirty laundry in our building so that they can use the washing machine and dryer. Good thing we are living on post housing (military) because I would not have let them use ours if we were paying for the water. They did this behind our back too. DH and I were shock when they showed up with 6 loads of dirty laundry. It was too late to tell them no because they live 2 hours away. I clean the house (yet they didn't care) they left with trash lying around in our house not picking up after themselves. Who am I kidding? maybe I'm the only one in the household who sees the true color of those people. Lesson learned..NEVER AGAIN INVITE THEM IN OUR HOUSE or USE OUR PHONE WITHOUT PAYING UPFRONT OR BE FRIENDS WITH THEM. Knowing DH I know he would still be friends with them. I forgive them and all but taking advantage is another thing. I think that's what they were doing. DH can hang out with them and he can drive two hours away to do that and I will be at home with the kids. Sometimes I want to hit him with a hammer in the head we argue about these people more than anything in our marriage. What the heck is wrong with him?

What I find unnerving is the fact that HE'S buying HER a birthday gift?? Without mentioning it to YOU? Wow. I might think that was a little weird and unsettling. Why is he buying her something without telling you? That's what I would have more of a problem with. I would just call that money a loss for the phone bill, but why is he buying her something when she owes you money? I agree with whoever that you should have just called that phone bill her gift, or just called half of it her gift and tell her you absolutely need the other half back NOW.
They are horrible friends in my opinion. Which makes it even more weird for your DH to be buying people like that a gift. Very strange indeed.

There seems to be more going on than a monetary issue here. Why, exactly, is he buying HER a gift? That would concern me a lot more than the phone bill.

And adding fuel to the fire, taking the attitude that it is okay for hubby to drive 2-hrs to visit them while you stay home with the kids is kind of scary considering the red flags that you're already seeing.

Her husband was in Romania in October? Is he back now? Does he travel frequently? Does hubby buy YOU expensive birthday gifts? Anytime a husband is #1 - doing things behind your back and #2 - saying you didn't talk to him about the issue when you KNOW you did, is someone who isn't acting like a married man.

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