Garnet is my birthstone and is not considered a "fancy" jewel. I would think you could wear those more than on just special occasions. I DO think that is quite a bit to pay for a garnet necklace and earrings, but it was sweet of him to get you something so thoughtful and generous. I'd probably keep them as it wouldn't be worth it to upset my dh to me.

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I was thinking the same thing about $500 for a garnet necklace and earrings. I sold jewelry for almost ten years and unless garnets have gone up dramatically in price it seems like he paid too much. If you think he would be hurt returning them, I would keep them we wouldn't want him to avoid buying you jewelry in the future.

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I have to ask...why don't you feel you're worth it? Your husband surely wouldn't have spent $500 on a whim. He felt you deserved to have something beautiful no matter the cost. Accept the jewelry with grace and thankfulness and perhaps analyze your wardrobe to find a few fabulous outfits you can wear each week to give yourself an excuse to show off your gift--even if you're just hitting the grocery store with your coupon binder! Keep your worries about the cost to yourself. Make a game out of making up the cost--can you save $500 in coupons/rebates/clearance over this next year? Perhaps that will clear up your stress about the money. Kiss your husband every time you wear the jewelry and thank your lucky stars you have a thoughtful and generous sweetheart! Think of all the women who received unromantic blenders and fluffy robes this year and kiss him again!

if you honestly don't want them then be honest maybe you could find a nice pair of earings or necklace thats cheaper that you would wear... i can understand not wanting to spend the money but at the same time at least he bought you something nice.. its a tough call you know your dh so go with your gut.

Thanks everyone! I'll be the one in the grocery store with the garnet/diamond earrings and necklace.

I was thinking of talking to DH about returning them but during dinner with his parents last night, he leaned over and whispered "did you like your christmas gift?". Made me remember that Christmas isnt about the receiving but the giving. So, I'm going to take JandJ's mommy's advice and believe I am worth it!

I told everyone that I was going to wear my wedding dress to the grocery to justify the cost...I paid $160 for it brand new at a consignment sale. So I will see you in the store with your fancy jewels...I'll be the one in the train!!

I think your dh was trying really hard to tell you how much he loves you and he really thinks you are worth it. My dh would be devastated if I took back something he bought for me like that and I didn't wear it.

I'm so glad you're going to keep your gift! You are worth it! Maybe next Christmas season you can discuss a spending limit with your husband ahead of time to avoid his overspending again, but in the meantime, cherish your romantic present! I'm sure you'll receive lots of compliments at the checkout line