My husband nagged for over a year for a new Apple Mac computer. He finally got it a few months ago because I couldn't stand the nagging. And no, we couldn't afford it. Anyone else have nagging husbands, who nag for expensive things?

Yes!! I HATE being the bad guy who always has to say "no, we can't afford it" every time my husband starts hinting about the "toy" he wants. Especially since he works so hard and is such a great guy and great father to our chidlren. I am SAHM currently, so I feel bad that he makes a great salary but he doesn't get any rewards because we need every penny for the household bills (we are a family of 6). We do have a special "dream fund" that we put money into as we can, but that is earmarked for a ski boat (which he really really wants), not for a new computer or big screen tv (which seem to be his latest wants).

To be fair to my husband, he does not spend money flagrantly and never buy himself anything. It's just that the things he DOES want are super expensive ($500+ not $50 things). What works for me, though, is I tell him that I don't want to be the bad guy saying no all the time and that I am ready to go back to work..... that shuts him pretty quickly! He LOVES having me at home with the kids right now (and the laundry done, and the house clean, and delicious meal on the table, and a wife that is not stressed out, etc.). He remembers what is was like with both of us working, and he realizes that this is a trade-off at this point in our lives.

Who does the finances at your house? If it's you, perhaps you can hand that responsibility over to your husband so he can see for himself how much he CAN'T afford taht new computer/expensive toy.

Good luck!! I can definitely relate!!

My DH never asks for anything.. Things he likes are usually things I would like to have to and benifit both of us, like the Plazma 52 inch TV he just bought, And our Big screen TV is now in our room! He works 70 hours a week as a Manager of the biggest Rent to own store in this reigon, so I don't say no when he see's something he really likes as it's not very often maybe every 3 or 4 years he will see some electronic thing, but it's always BIG bucks!!

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YES!!!! I am the "banker" around our house and always feel like I'm saying no to something. I would get so frustrated and finally awhile back I handed over the bank and budget and told him it was his. If he wanted to spend the money he could also figure it all out instead of me being stressed about it all the time.

It opened his eyes. Now it's a joint effort and I can't say he never nags for stuff I don't thing we should get and he ends up with it anyways, but it has cut down a lot!!

So sorry!!!!

Yes. However, he never even thinks of it unless we can afford it, so it isn't that big of a deal to me.

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~Vicki~
Mama to Hailey, 4 and Ella, 2

In my bizarro house, I am the one who likes new toys and DH is the good one. I am in charge of finances so I should know better, but that doesn't stop me from looking

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Angie
Married to my best friend 9.99
Mother since 4.04 to "Bobo" and his "baby" 9.06

This is a bit of a problem for us as well. For years he would want something, bug me until he got it, he'd have that buy "high" for a few days and then he was on to the next thing. At age 33 he's actually starting to outgrow this issue. Of course he is still willing to go on Craig's List and find every crap car out there that someone is willing to sell. But he is better.

Part of what has helped us I finally pointed out that he was always wanting something and part of it is we have children and a house now and those always want something as well!

My husband is a musician and video gamer--both very expensive hobbies! When he wants a new "toy" he sells off some of his music/comic/Star Wars collection on Ebay to finance it. He's no longer a collector so he's happy to let things go knowing once all the money rolls in he'll be able to buy something new. He also puts off purchases as long as he can stand it--usually the price on new technology plummets after the first year or so. He knows that buying toys is not in the budget or financial freedom plan so the creative "financing" through selling clutter is the only way he can score new stuff.

You bet and I tell him No and he understands that we can't get it out I tell him something pricy that I want. So the counter to the I want a PS3 might be I want a china hutch or something else. Still the point is he does ask and he doesn't impulse buy stuff. I do the same we do talk over big purchases and that helps us not give in.

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