What would you do? #1 - Page 2

CloseToHome · 03-01-2008, 11:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tomoliv's mom

nope. Money isn't everything and family comes first.

I totally agree

Thriftygal · 03-02-2008, 12:10 AM

There is no way I would do it. My heart would be aching. My daughter wouldn't understand and I couldn't imagine missing out on all the everyday cute things she does.

Kim · 03-02-2008, 07:24 AM

If it were me, I couldn't leave my family for long periods of time like that for any amount of money.

If it were dh, I don't know. When you think about it as a short-term proposition where you could save a HUGE chunk of money saved up by the end of the contract, it would be very tempting. Plus, the four months of no work is more than what most people get right now. During the four "off" months you could really do some fun family things together with the money, too - fun trips, etc. and spend loads of time together. You also said it was a "dream" job that would be very fulfilling. If that weren't the case, it wouldn't be worth considering. It would be rough but the rewards could potentially outweigh the sacrifices in the long run. I'm torn on that one.

Jared&Maggie'smom · 03-02-2008, 07:25 AM

If it was one year then maybe but 5? No way!

brensmom · 03-02-2008, 08:37 AM

nope i would not do it for me my kids depend on me to much now if dh would want to i might consider it he already is working 60-70 hours a week and to be honest when he is home he is dead tired and has to take naps. so it might be ok we might actually see him more if he were going to be home 4 months.

Happymom · 03-02-2008, 08:50 AM

I have been thinking about this more over night and I would definitely do it!!! As Taylyn said you have those 4 months that you could devote totally to family. If I made that much, my dh would not be working and could devote all his time to the kiddos. They would probably get more attention than ever. We would easily pay off all our debts including the house and still have a 1/2 million in savings at the end of the 5 years!!!! It could make a huge difference to our family forever!!!

marrobinson · 03-02-2008, 09:10 AM

I have friends with over the road truck driving husbands, and their lives are not consistent. There is one lifestyle with DH on the road, and there is another lifestyle with DH home. I would imagine that this type of job would create the same stress on daily life and on a personal relationship. I wouldn't like it. My Dh wouldn't do it either. Money is not the most important factor.

Marlene

aleise02 · 03-02-2008, 10:33 AM

Never in a million years for any amount of money in the world would I go and leave my babies!! I asked DH (LOL) he said that he could never ever do it either because for us it would be a complete shell shock, DH has never traveled even overnight for his work now and his schedule is so flexible that he can be home at the drop of a hat, I couldn't deal with it becuase it would be really emotionally straining on me, I hate to be alone!!!

booker81 · 03-02-2008, 10:53 AM

No thanks

Like another poster mentioned - we have a friend who is a truck driver, and though he gets chunks of time at home - the time he is away for weeks at a time just don't make it worth it (to us).

If money was that important to us, I would be working. It's not - we make enough as long as we are careful, and we have a lot of quality time together. It's more important to me that we are close together. I'm with him because I really like to be around him as much as possible.

If it were a friend - then I would say it's totally up to them. They can chose what is more important to them. If it's money, than totally go for it. If it's adventure, then totally go for it (it sounds fun to me). If they are concerned about family time and what not, then they might want to rethink doing it.

changed4life · 03-02-2008, 11:07 AM

No.
The emotional ramifications on the entire family would not be worth it to me...for either of us to take that job. Money doesn't fuel me enough to have to deal with traveling on a plane back and forth, risking the negative emotions of my spouse or especially the children. Five years is five years. So much would be lost and not enough gained (since I don't see money as an end all for happiness) for me to go for it. Same for hubby. There's no way I'd want him to go. Our lives are firmly planted with each other and our children.