i also agree i would not say anything unless asked.. odds are they are going to do it anyway.. if it turned out great thats fabulous if it doesn't big lesson learned in a hard way thats what it takes for some people.

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SILENCE IS GOLDEN BUT DUCK TAPE IS SILVER.

I would only give my opinion if asked. If it was an open discussion I would mention that it sounded a bit risky but that I wished them luck.

As pp mentioned, people only hear what they want to hear, and any advice would seem meddlesome.

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They might not appreciate it but I would have to say something. I don't think I could live with myself if I didn't and they were out all of that money. Then all you can do is place it in God's hands.

I once told a VERY good friend of mine the day of her wedding her DH to be cheated on her the night before the wedding, while he was suposed to be out with his guy friends. Needless to say she asked that I don't stand up with her and even asked me to leave her wedding. They got married, had a baby and 13 years later they got divorced because he repeatly cheated on her. She said she finally got tired of forgiving him. We didn't talk any of those years because I told her what she needed to know and she said I was jealous and not her friend. Well now we are speaking again and she said she is sorry she didn't put friendship over a man.

So I guess what I am saying is if you step out and tell someone something they NEED to hear this is the worst that can happen, but you will KNOW you did the right thing.

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A Family of 5's quest to forget the Joneses.

I would suggest that they meet with one of our pastors who has had significant training in financial issues.. and has taught the Crown seminar in our church several times. And.. no matter what they decide to do in the long run.. I would pray for them!

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-Sarah

My "Forget the Joneses" Blog: Click Here

That is a hard one. No matter what I would pray for them. If I knew them well I may, in private, ask them more in depth questions and express my concerns. But as someone already said, when you are excited about something, you tend to only see what you want. So they may not listen to anyone.

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Jenifer
Proud wife to one amazing man
Proud mom to four awesome kids

Have a safe and blessed New Year!

It's true. They didn't listen. A few people tried to gently suggest that this might not be such a great idea but they wouldn't be swayed. Three months later they weren't even making enough to pay the business loans. We never knew how much they lost.

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