I agree with you on this One....


I Had My First at 17 and Lived home with my Parents till I Was 21.

I Got WIC for 2 yrs. - And I Hated it. BUT It was a Help with Formula.
Looking Back I should've Nursed and Really saved Money , But what Did I know? I Had no other cash Assistance.... AND I Actually Paid Off my Hospital Bill in Full
Took Me about 4 yrs. BUT I Paid every Penny of that 5000.00 Back. By Myself.
By the time I Was 23 I Had two Kids and We Have Never Qualified For anything.

My DH just Worked 3 jobs at one point ..... Thats How We Did it.

I think it is Wrong ,WRONG to Have a Second Or a 3rd or 4th , and Not even Have enough to Care 100 % For Your 1st.

I Often think People go from One Baby to the Next , so they don't even Have to think about NOT having an excuse that they are PG or Have a Baby.
Years Later they think about it.

Personally, I do believe that unexpected things happen and aid like WIC should be there in those circumstances. But I do not think that people on gov't assistance should keep having more and more children and remain on assistance. They need to get an education and a job and support themselves and the child they already have before having more kids. Not to offend anyone here, but I was taught to finish school, get a good job, get married, have kids. Things happen, yes, but when they do - you still have to finish school & get a good job and get off assistance rather than continue having kids you can't pay for on your own.

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I agree with you. I also got WIC and food stamps when I was on maternity leave. I also got support from my family (not money wise, just to be there when I needed them) When I went back to work I got WIC and child care payed for. I would have only got 10 dollars a month for food stamps when I went back to work so I dropped it. Plus my rent was only 300 dollars a month and electric was only about 50 dollars a month. My water was included in rent. I just had to pay for my electric, phone and garbage. Gas was cheaper 6 years ago than it is now I was going to school so I knew it was a permanent thing to need assistance. I don't think it should be abused and an excuse to not work. That is why I am working part-time now.

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I'd just like to add that their dh's might have good stable jobs. My dh has always supported us and we are a young couple-I'm 27 having my 4th. We've never had any help and we've always had a nice standard of living.

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A woman is like a teabag. You never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water.-Eleanor Roosevelt

Yes this is true.

I Had 3 kids when I was 26 and My DH was only 23 and we did good.

I Guess I Always Felt like we were so Much older though.

I forget we were that young too.

Wow My DH was only 26 when our 4th was born!
Sounds Weird cause that seems so Young now .

I had my first at 18, second at 20, and third at 21. My husband and I own our home, vehicles, have savings, retirement funds, and good jobs. My age had nothing to do with my ability to care, and provide for my family.

It is sad that there are a lot of young people out there on food stamps, state assistance, etc. But there are parents in their 30's and 40's doing the same thing.

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I had my two children young. 18 and 20, I was married when I had both of them and divorced right after my 2nd was born. Don't receive a dime of CS and don't get a welfare check either. I'm sure some of these girls get help from their families ( lucky them!), government help or have older husbands with established careers like some of yall have mentioned. Really what's wrong with that? Not a bad move for women.
I would rather have the government helping out single moms feed their kids than help full grown men sit around all day watching their big screens in government housing. Maybe it's just me but the men part bothers me much more.

I had my first child (a surprise) at 19 and my second (planned) at 21. The first year was tight (not impossible, but tight) because dh (3 years older than me) was just fresh out of college but we've been fine ever since.

You can be young and have you're act together in much the same way that you can be 40 and still living at home. I certainly hope people weren't sitting around, looking at me thinking, "Oh, she's definitely on some sort of public assistance." We did qualify for WIC at one point, but we were fine without it and I didn't feel comfortable accepting it, so we didn't. We just watched what we spent and didn't eat out much. We did a lot of parks and free activities, our bills were paid, we had a roof over our head and we didn't have any help from anyone. It was actually a wonderful time in our family and I'll never regret having had children so young.

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Mama to Hailey, 4 and Ella, 2

I was 24 when I had my first so I can't really say that I know what it's like, nor would I want to. I think it's a struggle now so I can't imagine being any younger - I would have gone crazy! I think that if someone needs assistance they should get it. No child asked to be put into a bad situation. But even my husband & I qualify for WIC - I don't work, only he does. It's not that we can't afford the formula, etc but why not take what you can get - that's extra money that we are saving every month to buy diapers and whatever else our son may need.