This is a confession here ladies so no flaming please ...

I'm beginning to think I have control issues when it comes to money. My dh is very laid back and easy going. I am 100% in charge of the finances and we both seem happy with the arrangement. He hardly ever buys anything but when de does, it's because he really needs it (other than books ~ his weakness).

But this month we've been doing renovations. We set out a budget and put it in a separate account. But as those of you who have done renovations know, one little thing becomes a bigger issue. He keeps saying, "I don't think I can keep this thing under budget. I'd rather do it once well now than have to do it again." While I agree with him, and I have not said so out-loud to him, it is stressing me out every time he goes to the hardware store for more supplies or when he mentions that he's not going to be able to stay within the budget.

I think I have control issues. (We've been married nearly 12 years and it's never come up before.)

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I definitely have issues with money. I know where I get them though and so does my spouse so we're able to work through it if need be. Take a deep breath. He's right about doing it right the first time. Oh and if you are like me, space those projects out so you don't spend the whole year worrying about replacing the money you spent each and every time you start and finish a project.

I know I have control issues when it comes to money. I have issues with most things and need to be in control of them to make me feel at peace.
I am in control of all the finances, I give dh his pocket money and ciggerette money, besides for that I make sure everything goes where it should. I get really nervous when he even wants his own card to draw money.

I dont see that as a control thing. My husband and I have done this same dance- he says he needs x for a project and it turns out to be more. It makes me nuts because practically every penny in the budget is accounted for, so it has to come out of somewhere.
I have seen on HGTV that you should estimate a project with cost 15% more than you planned on and budget accordingly. I may try that next time.

We to have a similar arrangement. I am the money control freak, I am also the planner and the organizer in the family so I hear ya.
DH has tried to to the finances and he just looses interest.

As for the Home projects Yes they generally always cost more then expected. What we do is price out everything that and I don't let DH go to Lowes or Homedepot by himself. Its much more affordable if I go get the extra Supplies because I am not tempted to buy a few extra things for the project. Still there are ways to do it right and still save. One is to look at who has what. Borrowing tools is cheeper then buying. We are in the middle of a patio project and we priced everything in order to stay under our 2K budget.
Shopping around is important too and guys don't realize that When we did our Kitchen Cabinets we found a local cabinet outlet quoted us 3K less then Lowes and that little things add up. Arches on the doors would have cost and extra thousand.
So you can stay in budget but you need to really be tough in sticking to simply done right and going for something extra

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Kimberly Proud Mommy to Bethany Rose April 2006

I have control issues about everything not just money!!

I am working on letting go though. The money we have is earned by BOTH of us and I think that he should get a voice on where it is spent. We have talked about it and for now I am just going to share all the information with him and ask for input because he will not really give it to me. He didn't know, for example, that I had put a certain amount of $ in the budget for him to spend on landscaping. He thought he couldn't spend anything.

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Grace

Wife to Stoney

Mommy of Sarah (8.5), Hannah (7), and John(4.5)

Omg, talk about home renovations! We've been doing some stuff to our landscaping, and you know those tools and plants can get pricey. He gets upset with ME when I tell him to measure his spending and only buy necessary things for the project. I feel like I gotta micomanage the situation in whole, before we lose control of it. I've been on both sides of the equation, and I know im comfortable where we're at and wouldn't want for it to change...so YES, I do have money issues as well!

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Yes and no it depends upon what the issue is. My DH is more laid back about it, he isn't a big spender, but he is never worried.

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Welcome to my world...I am a Control FREAK (I own the tee shirt and wear it proudly!). It's not just money either...I need to hold the remote for the TV too

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Yep! i'm a control freak in all aspects of life

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