Young women want the easy life - Page 2

Ev_Cal_n_Syds_Mommy · 08-12-2006, 03:12 AM

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Originally Posted by bennis_mama

It's true to a point. Think about our "role models" in this age group. The 'twenty-something' idols are filled with Paris Hilton's, Nicole Richie's, Mary Kate and Ashley's. Sure these girls "work" but they also have fun well beyond. I'm 21, I wish it was that simple.

Do you notice that all these girls have high paying jobs? Marrying rich isn't always a cinderella story, then you have to be the one waiting up late for your husband, being second to his work or fun.

These are generalizations, I know, but people have this ideal that being "rich" is easy and fun - most of the time it isn't that simple.

I hope, though, that women are starting to think more about staying at home - it's important. I remember rushing out the door with a single parent, and it was rough, it's nice when you have the privalage of one parent at home.

I am 21 too! I watch Paris Hilton on T.V. and I am not saying I would give up my life for what they have, but I wish my life was that simple!!! They go drink and have everything given to them! I mean I know she does t.v. shoes and has a record coming out, but that's it!

I wish our kids would have better role models, and I am not putting the Olsens, Nicole Ritchie, or Paris Hilton down, but come on, what are the chances all of our kids turn out to be movie stars???

Just my opinion!!!

annemc · 08-12-2006, 05:20 AM

For me I think that any time there is a revolution (and the feminism movement was one such revolution) there is always a 360 degree turn about in ideas, and ususally the baby gets thrown out with the bathwater before sense prevails and there is a return to the middle ground.

Women were so on the margins of work, social rights, inheritance rights, that they understandably went all out to get their rights. That resulted in a huge swing away from what some women feel naturally drawn to. The caring and nuturing side of our nature was not valued simply because it had no monetary value. Jobs with monetary value were the only guidlines of recognised worth hence the all out effort of our Mothers generation to get , and maintain these positions

However we have another 180 degree turn as people see this is too high an expection, You can have everything but not all at the same time. Our generation have realized this and are now looking for the mid option.

These girls are young, acedemically (sp) educatied, for sure but pretty dumb on common sense and you cant aquire common sense, just coming from wealthy family, Your either born with it or your not. Their wake up call if all they want is a walking,talking, sleeping, bank balance to live with, is going to come when they looks and contacts go and there is always a new Barbie Doll trophy wife waiting in the wings. Its an never ending cycle.

Ok if they agree with their husbands for time out when raising their children but do they honestly think any self respecting man wants to be seen as a bank balance in trousers and is going to be happy to facilitate this?

These expections will settle into mid balance on their childrens generation when they see their mothers behaviour and will decide to be responsible for themselves financially and make better deals with their spouses.

And the world goes on

JM2CW

Anne

southern_belle_mommie · 08-13-2006, 12:10 PM

I don't really know where to start, but I will jump in. My parents divroced when I was 15. I can remember even then cooking for myself and cleaning the house as if I was in control of it. My family wasn't middle class but not lower class either. It didnt hurt me though. I have never been materialistic. Now, I am a SAHM and I love it. I do want to go back to work again one day when my kids are in school, but I dont know yet. I used to work when my son was a NB and hated every minute of it. I don't think Paris, Mary Kate and Ashley and these other "spoiled" rich kids have it all that good, they have time and money. But they don't have the fullfillment of cooking a delicious meal for the first time and their dh and kids enjoying it. They don't have a house that THEY clean to take pride in....
If life were meant to be that easy, everyone would have it. I like my no so easy, not rich life. Hope that makes sense.:cool:

abbysmommy · 08-13-2006, 03:58 PM

For real, who wouldn't want an easy life?? But who's definition of "easy" is correct? To me, easy is simply being able to be here at home with my children...children who always obey, tell the truth and get along with their siblings...and being able to have money left over after paying the bills for a few luxuries and not always JUST the necessities...while praying we don't need anything else until the next time money comes in. But even that's not ideal and life isn't easy. And I hate to tell these girls, but the decision to have children will automatically put their lives in the complicated category...not that that's a bad thing! But if they're good, dedicated Moms (unlike that freaky woman who's children bore her to tears that someone posted about), having a baby is like making the decision to let your heart walk around outside your body for the rest of your life (read that somewhere once). Even money can't fix health problems, problems in pre-k or school, etc.

Life just is NOT all about money...and having money doesn't make life easier....not that I would know since I don't have any!!