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Thoughts? Read the reader comments too. Do you think this is true?

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Debbie

"Watch the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." --Benjamin Franklin

It's true to a point. Think about our "role models" in this age group. The 'twenty-something' idols are filled with Paris Hilton's, Nicole Richie's, Mary Kate and Ashley's. Sure these girls "work" but they also have fun well beyond. I'm 21, I wish it was that simple.

Do you notice that all these girls have high paying jobs? Marrying rich isn't always a cinderella story, then you have to be the one waiting up late for your husband, being second to his work or fun.

These are generalizations, I know, but people have this ideal that being "rich" is easy and fun - most of the time it isn't that simple.

I hope, though, that women are starting to think more about staying at home - it's important. I remember rushing out the door with a single parent, and it was rough, it's nice when you have the privalage of one parent at home.

My children understand about luxuries and more importantly
How much Sweat and Sacrifice will probably go into getting it.

I worked midnights so I could be there during the day-
as needed for homework,practices,dinners
Food,utilities and shelter are necessary-
150.00 sneakers are not
a 19-inch TV might not be as nice as a wide screen or plasma
but it's better than none

If they want wild and fancy they can get the job to pay for it-

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I was a latch key kid that made lots of sacrifices for my family to function. That meaning by 5th grade I was making breakfast for everyone and making sure my parents got off to work before I got myself off to school. My afternoons were more about house cleaning and cooking dinner than homework or play. I knew things cost alot and would rarely ask for yearbooks and other non-necessities b/c I didn't want to cost my parents more money. I did end up with perspective and respect for money and effort given to earn it. I don't consider it wrong of me to want to be here at home with my ds. I don't do it for a life of luxury, I do it so that he can grow up with less stress and it's far from cushy. I'd go to work in a second if we needed me to.

This upcoming generation is much more spoiled with all the frivilous things we advertise to them so they think they must have platinum and diamonds. Reminds me of the Gilded Age. I can't help but think people could give better of themselves to their families, the world, and humanity in general if the focus wasn't on the newest craze. We have alot more education nowadays but we consider the finer things in life to be things not each other?

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* Let it not be said that no one cared, that no one objected once it's realized that our liberties and wealth are in jeopardy.

~Ron Paul

"If Tyranny and Oppression come to this land, it will be in the guise of fighting a foreign enemy."
- James Madison

Part of me wants to slap these girls -- they're immature, have a sense of entitlement, and don't have one clue about how to manage money. On the other hand, I can kind of see where they're coming from. As they stated in the article, many of the women watched their mothers being stressed out trying to burn the candle at both ends. These women don't want that for themselves. They want to be able to spend time with their families instead of running around at Mach 1 with their hair on fire. The feminist movement has made great strides for women; however, I think there were some unintended consequences. In this day and age, I realize that many women are forced to work outside the home because they're either single parents or the high cost of living requires two incomes in their area, but many women who want to stay home with their kids are unable to do so because society expects women to work now, especially if their children are school-aged. Sometimes dhs pressure their wives to get jobs even if the family is not desperate for money. While a lot of women are enjoying having careers by choice, many women are being dragged kicking and screaming into the workforce because that's just the way things are supposed to be now.

Although wanting to spend more time with their families is commendable, the women in this article also want to live lavish lifestyles and I'm very concerned that they're only judging a man by the size of his bank account. There are other qualities that they need to be looking for in a potential dh. Is the man kind? Will he be good with the kids? Will he be a faithful spouse? Finances are important, but they shouldn't trump happiness. Money doesn't buy happiness and these girls are fools if they think it does. Would these women stay in an abusive relationship and subject their kids to abuse just because their dh's make big bucks? I shudder at the thought.

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"Everything happens for a reason, but there may not be a point." ~ Kinsey Millhone

I could have written this. I was a latch key kid too as well as being the oldest. So I was "responsible" for my sister too until my parents got home. Maybe because of this, but I knew I needed and wanted to be home for my kids. I work hard at being frugal (even though it is in my nature) so that I can stay at home.

These girls, I think, are an example of what I feel is wrong with today's younger generation. They want it all - and don't want to work for it at all. Paris Hilton is a sad role model. Yeah, marrying someone rich would be nice -but just like buying a lottery ticket as your retirement plan not the smartest way to go. What happened to working hard and owning up for your choices? I think the feminist movement has let women down. We say we want equality - but then what it seems they are saying is we want someone rich to take care of us?

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Debbie

"Watch the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." --Benjamin Franklin

The feminist movement has made great strides for women; however, I think there were some unintended consequences. In this day and age, I realize that many women are forced to work outside the home because they're either single parents or the high cost of living requires two incomes in their area, but many women who want to stay home with their kids are unable to do so because society expects women to work now, especially if their children are school-aged. Sometimes dhs pressure their wives to get jobs even if the family is not desperate for money. While a lot of women are enjoying having careers by choice, many women are being dragged kicking and screaming into the workforce because that's just the way things are supposed to be now.


>>>I just heard a feminist on the Daily Show the other night say that women who stay home are wrong. Denying themselves money, power, and the status that comes with the workplace. Correct me IF I'm wrong but wasn't the feminist movement about women having the right to make the choices they wanted? Staying home is my choice! Is there an more honored,powerful status than Mother? Who do you call when life kicks you when you're down? Who loves you no matter what and would stop the world to make sure you're ok, MOM!

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* Let it not be said that no one cared, that no one objected once it's realized that our liberties and wealth are in jeopardy.

~Ron Paul

"If Tyranny and Oppression come to this land, it will be in the guise of fighting a foreign enemy."
- James Madison

Amen!! I hate that these feminists degrade my choice - one that I feel is as important as all the power and prestige I could have if I did decide to work out side the home. There is time enough for that when my kids are grown. For now, my job is to be mom and coo - chief operations officer!

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Debbie

"Watch the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." --Benjamin Franklin

It's interesting that their role models do work and have careers, although they see only the luxury side of it. Modeling is hard work, although it doesn't look it. I think these girls have some shocking surprises coming to them. Looks like they also like their wonderbras. They remind me of the girls in the Shopaholic series of books. It is interesting, however, that the tide does seem to be turning. I felt the burnout when I went back to work after my son was born, until he was 9 mos. old. Of course, going back to work in the first year is cause for burnout, anyway, what with the sleepless nights and still recovering from childbirth. I'm glad I made my choice, and still have no desire to go back, although I liked working then. I agree: the whole idea of the feminist movement was to give women choice. I just with the choice was easier to make, financially. I wish the choice to go back was based more on providing luxuries than necessities, as it is for many.

I grew up upper middle class, I was a SPOILED BRAT...I wanted things, I felt I had entitlement - I was these girls. The only difference was, I knew that it took work to make money and not just looking nice. And, I didn't want a family or to stay home with them - I wanted a career, an education,and my own life. But alas - I got engaged at 18 years old to a chef (not a job path for the rich), I got pregnant shortly after, and I had a baby at 19.

Sure changes your perspective, when you have a kid. My life became for her, instead of about me. I still go to school but realize I will never be where I thought I would.

There are things in life that will put them in their place...believe me. I just hope they end up with supportive husbands to help them deal with it. If it weren't for my husband, I would have jumped off a bridge by now with how much I've learned to deal with.

Good luck to them...