as of right now, the baby has more than enough...she will be stayign with my brother and sister in law (who stays at home with her little girl who is 3) We went to my BIL's place today and picked up their pack-n-play, some toys, diapers, formula and all of the clothing she'll be neeeding in the next few weeks. I just don't know what people do it they don't have family around! Do these poor little kids go to fostor homes? I just got back at my brothers house about and hour ago. I will be spending the rest of tonight and tomorrow morning here with my kids, husband and brother. Lilly (BIL's daughter) is doing very well, she seemed happy, so that was uplifting.
BIL was actually awake today, asking about Lilly and we told him that we'd bring her over to see him when she gets out of the hospital tomorrow. They are putting off his 3rd surgery until all of the swelling goes down around his spinal cord. We found out today that it may be because of all of the swelling that he cannot feel his legs. A different Dr. looked at him and he has been assigned to a specialist now. The first Dr. he had been seeing told us that there was a very slim chance he'd ever walk again, but we told him that we wanted a new DR. because we didn't think that he was a very good one. Obviously he wasn't if we find out an entirely different story from the new specialist! BIL's wife has serious headaches and is on some heavy medications. She finally asked about Lilly and her husband this afternoon, but still cannot remember what happened. They are going to try and get her up and moving around tomorrow afternoon sometime and it was requested by her Dr. that She have very few visitors at this time because of confusion and the threat of infection. She will not get to see Lilly for a few more days. My brother and SIL are ready and willing to take Lilly for as long as they need to. It may be a few weeks. BIL said that he doesn't want to live in the cities anymore- but we don't know if he's really thinking clearly. He said "this was the final straw." He hates being around so many people everyday- he has always hated the long drive to and from work and he has never really loved to live there- he only did it for his wife. She wanted to live there, so he got a job there. They actually were thinking about moving closer to us with in the next year or two, but I think the move will come a lot sooner now.

Specific prayers that are needed for them at this time:

1. the swelling goes down around BIL's spinal cord so the Dr. can know what the next plan of attack is.
2. SIL stops having bad headaches and that she doesn't get infection.
3. Lilly will do fine at my brother and SIL's house

I don't know how much I will be on MS for a while as things are busy and we feel like we're spinning from all of this mess.

I am sure there will be some major lawsuits that come out of this deal! The more we hear about this bridge, the more it looks like this entire mess may have been avoided all together!

__________________
One happy wife and mommy!!!

I am crying while reading this. Praise God that they were found! Please remember that God is the ultimate healer! I will pray that your BIL's swelling goes down around his spinal cord and that he will be able to walk soon. I pray for a speedy recovery for your SIL as well, that her head traume heals quickly & that there will be no infection. I believe some type of memory loss in situations like this is perfectly normal. I will pray for a smooth transition for Lilly at your brothers house.

Remember to take care of you & your babies as well. You need your strength & rest. Let us know if we can do anything.

__________________
Mommy to Ariana 8/11/01 & Davis 4/11/05
I love my kiddos!

[/url]

Wow.. that would be awesome if the first Dr. was wrong about your BIL! You guys seem to have a great and supportive family-That is so great! I am so happy that they are alive. I was thinking about you guys all day yesterday! I Pray that you all have the strength to face whatever challanges come your way! God bless all of you!

__________________

Countdown Clocks

Sorry I could not post earlier, Me&My2girls. I am so happy to hear everything is looking better today, even if it means a long road of recovery. When I was at the pharmacy today, they had a television set to CNN talking about the bridge. All I could think about was your family! I jumped straight on the computer as soon as I got home to check on you and for any news about your family. I am keeping them in my prayers for a speedy recovery. (((HUGS)))

__________________

There are more than 40 different types of congenital heart defects. Little is known about the cause of most of them. There is no known prevention or cure for any of them.
http://mommysavers.com/boards/mommys...706-tommy.html

I am glad to hear you found them. Give that baby a big kiss from everyone on Mommy Savers! She needs it!

And take care of yourself!!!!

I'm so glad to hear that everyone was found. I'm so glad to hear the baby is doing well. She will be the inspiration for her parents to get well. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. ray:

__________________

I heard from my cousin (KyNana) tonight at a baby shower that they had found your family. I was so relieved. I'm fully believing in full recovery for your family. God DOES still work miracles and He IS still the Ultimate Healer. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers.

My dh and I and our family is very greatful for all of your thoughts and prayers. Your helpful words of encouragement are truely amazing and we greatly appreciate EVERY one of you for thinking of us at this time!!! I have gotten several PM's asking if we need anything or if people can send cards, words of encouragement and the like. At this time I don't think that it would be right of me to give out family names or any personal info about location or phone numbers. My SIL is and always has been very much againsed giving out any info to anyone she has not met personally. That is the way she is. I feel that by giving out any info I would be going againsed her wishes. I also have a very hard time giving any personal info (addresses, phone numbers and such) to anyone.

It is NOTHING againsed the wonderful people I have met here on mommysavers, you all are wonderful and thoughtful people. I hope that none of you take this personally or think less of me for not being able to provide some of you with hospital names and family names. I just haven't broken down that "wall" yet. I know by now I should be able to, but I think it takes me longer to build up that type of personal trust (I think it's mainly and online thing).

Even though I am not ready to give out certain info. I (and my dh's family) would still appreciate any personal messages that you wish to send. I will just print them out and bring them to the hospital with me. I know that my BIL and SIL would greatly appreciate any encouragement.

__________________
One happy wife and mommy!!!

I am so glad they were found! We will continue to pray for their recovery,and YOU be sure to take care of yourself too!

__________________

Me&My2girls,

I can definitely respect your wish to keep things private at this time. Your family has gone through so much lately! I can only imagine how strong you all must be.

I have a question. Will there be a fund set up to help offset the medical bills and other bills for the family? Sometimes a family member will open up a fund at a bank, and people can give money to the bank earmarked for that family's fund. I had a good friend do that a few years ago when they had a situation in their family. The bank takes care of depositing the money into the fund, and the family didn't have to worry about strangers knowing their address. I would love to be able to contribute toward that.

Just an option to throw out at you. I know that there are MANY generous people (on Mommysavers alone!) that are praying for a way to help you.

Thank you for sharing such deeply emotional and personal things with us here. We are honored to share in this crisis in your life, and we want to support you in any way that we can. Prayers continue daily for you and your family. God bless you all!!

__________________
If you need to get in touch with me, my email is teach1107910@yahoo.com.