A few days before Christmas dd had some friends over. I could have sworn one of the girls said "d###", but I'm not 100% sure. There was no point asking her to repeat what she said because if she did swear, she would have changed what she said. Since I wasn't completely sure what she said, I didn't say anything to her.

If I ever hear one of dd's friends swear and there's no doubt what's been said, I need to be prepared to handle it. Do you just calmly say "We don't swear in our house" or something more firm? Do you tell the child's parents?

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When I've had it happen I do politely tell the kids they're not to talk like that in our house (or it's happened several times in our van). Oddly enough...even though DD is 18 I've NEVER heard any of her friends nor her use bad language. But DS's friends....well that's a different story. But my DS knows we don't allow that so usually he will tell the kid to stop before I get the chance.

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I don't think I have ever heard it in our house, but at school I have had to deal with it. I know that there are kids that swear at home with no problems, so we tell them that it is not allowed at school. If it continues they will have to take a break or if it is bad they need to have a chat with our director.

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With the boys I deal with it comes up from time to time. All I have to do is point to my kids and say, "I really do not want them talking like a teenage boy." And they stop. They are surprisingly pretty good about not swearing around my kids. The trouble is usually some words that the boys don't consider bad and I do. In fact the word we struggle with the most "P1$$#* off."

It's not happened to us...I'm not a nazi about swear words though, I have to say that I have used them on occasion. LOL I might just tell the kid "please stop"...would I tell the parents? No, probably not. I can't see a reason why unless it was an ongoing thing with one child and what would I be trying to accomplish?

I just tell them, "Oops. Honey, we don't use that word in our house." Honestly though, I only recall it happening a couple of times.

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I would just let them know that we do not talk like that in our home and when they are visiting to not use that kind of language. I would probably not tell the parents unless it was just an awful word. I really just do not want my kids talking like that. JMO

I missed this part of the question. Usually by the time that the boys reach us, their parents are well aware of their language choices and, at this point, it is the least of their concerns.

I do need to work a bit more on the boys swearing around me. They're good with my kids, and I like that, and it isn't like I'm easily offended but I think it is good for them to learn. It can be tough though because many of them swear in conversation with their parents.

I would just tell them not to say that in our house. I have to remind ss who is almost 19 that some words, I just don't care to hear.

And no I wouldn't tell their parents, but if they just keep on saying the words or using fowl language over and over, I wouldn't let them come back over.

I wouldn't tell the parents, and I would simply say "We don't say those words in this house".