should I give my dd who is tuning 12 an Asus Laptop on her 12 'th birthday??
I had bought an Asus mini laptop (8 inch) on Black Friday for $250. My dd loves computers , she loves to go on websites to design clothes and other ones like clubpenguin, and other ones. She can spend endless hours on the computer which she enjoys so much.
She is a very good girl, very smart and responsible. She gets good grades and help out in the house.
Is this too much to give for a 12 year old??? should I wait till she is older? Last year we gave her $50 cash and she saved them. We have 2 computers in the house that have internet and she uses them. But, she always talked about how she wants to save money so she can buy her own. what do you all think?

what can I get for her? should I give her money again?

If it were me, I would wait until she is older. But, that is me. I think 12 is a bit young for your own laptop. I want to have more parental control over things. She may be a good girl, but other people on the internet are not so good to girls. JMO

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I understand she's a good girl. But, why does she need a laptop? With info you've posted, she may have self-esteem issues (like her name as an example). There's so many predators on the web, and she seems very vulnerable. Maybe you can get her books and take her shopping. I'd rather get her in a fun activity where she learns how capable she is. JMHO.

I do know a lot of 12-yr olds that have laptops. While I like more parental controls and keep my DD on a desktop so I can see the screen, do what you think is best. I, as a parent, would reserve the right to access her laptop whenever I want, however.

As for the gift being 'too much', obviously you can afford it because you already bought it. It isn't too much if that is the kind of birthday pesents you give. It's not a problem for me. Some parents spend much more just for non-event goodies for their kids.

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My 13 yr old has a laptop, it wasn't a new laptop when she received it, it was DH old work laptop, we put one of the nanny net programs on it and our 16 yr olds too so we can see what they are looking at. We also have rules for the laptops, they are not allowed to take them to their bedrooms, they stay downstairs in our family room.

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huh? what is her name? did i miss something about self esteem?

anyhoo- i think that if you feel she will be responsible - then go ahead and give it to her- we give a bigger present at birthdays then Christmas in our house
we gave our 12 yr old a Wii


another thing - with the way technology moves- you wait too long and that laptop will be a dinosaur

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dd is not happy with her name, she does not like it!

I don't see why not...but I'd make sure that it's kept and used where you can monitor (no pun intended) what she's doing on it. We have our main computer in our library, but pretty soon ds will be accessing a computer in the kitchen so I can see what he's doing on it. So it will probably be a laptop of some kind. I imagine that dh will probably get a new one and his old one will go to ds to use in the kitchen.

I don't like the idea of a huge computer in the kitchen, hence the laptop. I don't see it as a problem at all, if they are not on it for hours on end and are keeping up with school, home and friends.

Since you have already bought it I would go ahead and give it to her. However, as others have mentioned I would keep an eye on her and her usage. I am sure she is fine but you just never know who is watching her.

As far as her name goes. If it wasn't her name it would be something else. Trust me on this. Kids are mean and I was teased most of my life for my last name. I am fine but it was devastating at the time. Just remind her that this will pass and she is a strong woman, and in no time this will be a speed bump in her past.

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