This is a spinoff on the "BC and your children" thread.

If you find out your minor dd is having sex and not using birth control do you think it's okay for you to make the decision to put your dd on the Depo shot to prevent her from getting pregnant? Especially if you know your dd won't take the pill and will peel off the patch and refuses to stop having sex.

I so hope I am never in this situation.

I would assume, that the parents would have some say about their daughter going on birth control because (and maybe I am wrong) because as their daughter being a minor still, doesn't that make them somewhat responsible about the possible grandchild?

But I don't know.

As someone who chose to go the Depo route when I was younger (went to Planned parenthood), I would NOT choose Depo for DD - my bones are paying for it big time. It has been proven to cause soft bones (osteopenia). Teen and early 20's is an important time for bone building, and I'm now breaking a bone every single year from being on Depo for 5 years. It's slowly getting better, but I totally missed out on peak bone building time. They say now that teen bone density recovers, but frankly, those years are better spent gaining density, rather than losing and then trying to catch up.

That said, if DD is refusing to use BC, and being obnoxious about it, we have a lot more issues to work out, and we would be seeing a counselor for her actions.

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Yes.

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You know, Booker made a comment that made me think a bit more about my own answer. Obviously there are some other issues going on here and if my daughter is having sex and being that stupid about it ... counseling yes and maybe even a wilderness program / treatment center. My husband works in the "industry" and I'm sure we could find a program or two with good rep and that would be willing to cut us a deal!

And man, I hope neither of my kids will ever be that stupid about sex.

If my dd was acting that irresponsible, I would be looking for a lot more than birth control. And I really don't understanding forcing birth control without focusing on the risk of HIV and other STD's.

No, I would not. And, this is from me having been a teenage mom. I had my first child at 18.

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The question isn't would you, but should parents have the right to. I think parents should have the right to. Every kid/situation is different, but to have it not be allowed is limiting.

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Thanks for the responses .

This is an actual situation, the daughter and mom do need lots of counseling and we're pretty sure the dd is only having sex to make her mom mad. The girl in this situation is 13 but because of state law her mother cannot have her put on birth control (since the dd is not consenting they can't "force" her). However if sex does result in pregnancy the mother will be responsible for the dd and grandbaby.

I do agree with the PP about being worried about STD's. Mom has taken her dd to the dr. to be "talked" to but the result of that dr. office visit was "I hate my mother and I don't want to use birth control or use condoms".