To tell or not to tell... - Page 3

freebiemom · 10-01-2008, 12:52 PM

I don't know how old your DS is but I have to say it's my opinion that him not wanting you to say anything means that he's more afraid of what will happen if it gets found out he told. My DS is small for his age and the past two years has had the bully of his class for that year pick on him. I went to the teacher both times and the appropriate steps were taken and the bullying stopped.

This year, my DS is in 3rd grade and yet another boy started telling him that he was going to beat him up. My DS made me proud that he stood up to the kid and the boy stopped saying anything to him on the playground but then started whispering things to him in class. My DS then went to the teacher to tell her what was happening and his teacher handled it.

I have talked to his teacher since but was proud of my DS for wanting to and for handling it on his own. Maybe it's what he's been through the past two years that has made him stronger but I would encourage your DS to talk to his teacher. If he really doesn't want to, then I think you need to talk to his teacher yourself. It may upset your son, as I think he needs to know, but if it helps him to be safe at school and to have a happier, friendlier learning environment, it's what needs to be done. I have talked to DS' teacher since he did as I thought it was my place to follow-up and she said she too was glad that he went to her.

It's not an easy situation and I do feel for you.

KathrynHannah · 10-01-2008, 12:56 PM

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Originally Posted by freebiemom

I don't know how old your DS is but I have to say it's my opinion that him not wanting you to say anything means that he's more afraid of what will happen if it gets found out he told. ....

He's 10 & in the 4th grade. I wondered the same thing about him being afraid what will happen if the kid finds out he 'ratted him out'.

freebiemom · 10-01-2008, 01:02 PM

So far my son hasn't sufferred any backlash but that was 1st & 2nd grade, we'll see how it goes this year but so far so good. Still, we have told DS over and over that we would never let him go to school where he is intimidated and simply afriad to be there. That's not a good learning environment at all. If the school can't or won't do anything about the situation, we can and will switch schools or homeschool. No kid should ever be bullied at school for any reason!