Yesterday DH and I went to visit his son's grave. We have never been there together and this was my first time ever in 10 years. I was SO upset when I saw the graves. There is nothing there but a tin foil name plate on each grave and the fire ants completely overtook his mothers name plate. If not for the size of the graves, we probably wouldn't have found them. I am wanting to get prices on head stones for them or, preferably, a double headstone for mother and child. I have some pictures that I took that I am going to try to post...
I feel so responsible for this child. I feel like maybe I do know the grief of miscarriage. I love this child so much yet never met him. I have never even seen his face or touched his skin yet my pain is totally real. I grieve over the fact that God didn't allow him to live and let me be his mother. I grieve over the fact that I couldn't be with DH when he was in the worst emotional pain in his life. I grieve over knowing that this beautiful child didn't get to live past 3 years old. He and his mother were killed in a car accident 10 years ago and he burned in the car and his mother was found dead from a heart attack reaching towards her son.
I would just like some prayers please for me and dh and our boys as we continue to remember and love this child.

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oh my god you just made me cry. If it makes you feel this bad imagine your poor DH. At least he has you who obviously cares for this previous family of his. What a blessing. I hope you can both get some piece.

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What a terrible tragedy. I will keep you, your husband, and your family in my prayers.

Alicia, my heart goes out to you and your family. I will pray for you all.

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You are right, they do deserve better. I hope you can find something that will fit your budget. What a wonderful gesture for you to do for him. It may be worth it to let the vendor know what you are doing and see if they can cut you a break.

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That has to be the most tragic thing I have heard. My heart goes out to you and your family. I will pray for you and your family. You are such a strong woman to love them even without knowing them and to do that for you dh is awesome.

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Oh, how sad for all of you.

(((hugs)))

This is what i was going to say. You have the biggest heart in the world. how sweet of you to think to do this. I do agree... they deserve better. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. let us know what comes of it.

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Is there any way you could get a fundraiser together?? thru a church or community?
I've seen families put coffee cans with small stories f children that passed and they needed help with medical or funeral expenses in local grocery/convenience stores.
I'm sure people would be moved and want to donate..........hth