Hi everyone,

This probably sounds like a sob story but I kinda of feel like I have lost me lately and don't even know what I like anymore. I have 5 kids from ages 2-9 and spend the majority of time taking care of their needs and the rest of the time helping my husband with our business. We own greenhouses - 2 1/2 acres worth, and are now onto our fall seasons plants (30,000 mums, pansies, fall combo pots, etc.). I feel like when I do have any free time I don't even know what to do except clean, laundry, pick-up, etc. I feel like I don't even know what I would do if somebody gave me the time. I don't even know - that sounds so sad to me! Does this sound stupid or am I just in the busy part of my life right now? thanks for letting me vent a little!

Kim

I can totally relate.

The one thing that gave me a portion of myself back was a MOMS Club. I truly mean that. From there I just started making myself a priority and would work out three times a week and then it kinda went from there. I started thinking and understanding that if I don't take care of me, I can't be the best mom or wife or PERSON.

If working out is not your thing, than do something for yourself that you truly love or are interested in, and that is something that requires about thirty minutes a day. If it means getting up earlier to read, or surf or sip on your coffee, than do that. Waking up with your feet running on the floor is hard to find your center! Ease into your day and you will find you are better off!

Where do you live? Wanna' move to TN and be my new best friend?!?! I have six kids, and I so can relate to what you are saying. My dh travels a lot...and I find it very very hard to know who JENNIFER is. I finally talked to dh, who totally supported me, and I found a once a month girls night out playing Bunco (a dice game). I also made myself put $5 a week into my bedside table drawer for some extra "prizes" for me...as in a real eyeliner instead of a $.99 one, a haircut every few months instead of once a year. It isn't much, but it makes me feel so much better as an individual, ya' know??

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I understand how you feel. Try to join a mommys group or do something once a month with some of your girlfriends. You need to have some you time that does not consist of housework. You need time just for yourself-this will help you to be a better mom, wife & you.

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Mommy to Ariana 8/11/01 & Davis 4/11/05
I love my kiddos!

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I have 4 daughters ages 16 to 3 and my husband just returned from Iraq and now we are getting ready to move! So yes I completely understand where you are coming from!

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Casey loving wife to Steven mom to 4 bratty girls Amanda, Rebecca, Jessica and Makayla
Where did my baby go

Thanks gals for your input. It is nice to know that I'm not alone feeling like this. I can't complain about my husband not helping out because he is good about taking the kids for me or whatever I need to do but sometimes it just doesn't seem worth it because when I come home the house may be trashed, etc. He doesn't think so but it isn't like I left it. I know I'm being a freak!!!!!! I need to lighten up a little too!!! Thanks ladies!

Kim

I totally understand that. Just the other day I was thinking that I miss me. Hang in there. Big hugs to you.

I can totally relate to this. My dh plays in a band so he is out and talking to other people about things other than, "what's for lunch, where's my toy, I need a snack....." I have been married for over 12 years and have never gone out with my friends. I go about twice a year to see dh play. Even on those occassions I tend to feel like a social retard because my life just isn't that interesting anymore. I don't know where I went. I used to be on the go all the time, or just take time to go for a bike ride or a walk in the woods, or water ski w/ friends and laugh a lot. I just don't see how it would be possible to do any of those things anymore. I feel stuck. The thing is 95% of the time, I love being stuck. I really am happy for the most part twittering away right here at home. I wish I could find my enthusiasm for something just for me though.

Big hugs. I think this is something we can all relate to. Being a wife and mom takes a lot of time and a lot of energy. Coming right here to talk about it helps a lot.

OMG this is just like me right now. I know I should start thinking about me but I just don't know what would make me happy anymore. It also seems that just to have time for me would be great but I don't know what activity would really motivate me.

I know I have to do something about this because I'm really starting to feel like it's affecting my family. I realize now that in order to be a better wife & mother I need to think about myself sometimes.

I'm still thinking about all this trying to figure a way to fit everything into our schedule.

I don't know why but it's always nice to know we are not alone feeling a certain way. Maybe because it makes us feel normal

Good luck to you,

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Marie - SAHM of DS Benjamin (april 2004) and DD Rose (march 2006).

I know exactly how you feel. I love taking care of my family but sometimes it would be nice to have the chance to explore things I may like .