"If you haven't forgiven yourself something, how can you forgive others?" ~ Dolores Huerta

"The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget." ~ Thomas Szasz


I have talked about this before and there is another quote that I have hanging on my fridge that I read everyday. That basically says, the only ones we are hurting by holding onto things is ourself. Time to let go.

My Dad is the KING of holding onto things, so I know where I got that trait from, haha.

I am going to open up a little here....this is an entry from my personal blog. It was written awhile ago, and was actually written to go along with the Serenity prayer. Something that I need to re-read quite often. Here goes:

I cannot change how other people live their lives. I cannot change how other people judge me. I cannot change how other people treat me.

I can change how I live my life. I can change my feelings towards how other people judge me, by not caring what they think. I can change how I react to the way other people treat me, by not wearing my emotions on my sleeves, and letting it all just roll off of my back.

If they see that it doesn't bother me, they will "leave me alone". They will know that they haven't pushed my buttons.

I will stand up for myself if I am in a situation where I feel that I am being unfairly judged. I will not hide in shame because of how this person is viewing me.

As long as I know what the truth is, and I know that I am doing the best that I can do with my life, who cares what everyone else thinks. And if someone thinks poorly of me...well, then it is because they have to put someone else down to make themselves feel better. Well, it is not going to be me anymore!! I will NOT let someone else put me down!!

Does this mean I have wisdom?? I don't know. But it sure is a very good start.

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

Yes you have talked about this before, I remember. I think it's one of the most frustrating and the most challenging things for a person to go through personally.

I used to be very cold and hold onto things and let those negative feelings in me eat me alive. It was supposed to protect me from ever getting hurt agian. THEN I realized one day, I am hurting myself. The more I would hang onto all of that garbage, the more it would affect me and keep me from growing. Since this revelation I can now process things that happen to me a little more objectively. I start off by making excuses for the person whom has hurt me, then work on building up the courage to look beyond it. It's really a hard thing to do, especially when the person that upset you doesn't know.

Forgiveness is a spiritual test. I don't always pass, but I at least try to work my way up to forgiving someone. It's empowering to know that I HAVE THE CONTROL to be happy, versus letting someone tear me down!

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It is funny, because I used to hold onto everything too. And I am not saying that I don't anymore by any means, BUT I am able to recognize the signs a lot easier and not hold onto it for too long. If that makes any sense.



GREAT thought!!

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe

Thanks ladies. I have been dealing with this forgiveness thing also. It is a family situation and it is so hard, but I can do it and I will be better for it. For myself, it is very much a daily battle. I love to watch Joyce Meyers, and she has been talking about this. Thanks again. Great day!!!

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Yes, we have talked about this before...I remember the post well...I have a hard time with forgiveness. I am Grudge Girl (hear me roar). The thing about it though..the things in my life I won't forgive...they do not weigh me down or affect me in any way shape or form...they just ARE.
Does that make sense?

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Yup totally! That is how I am with ANYTHING regarding my Mother. I will NOT forgive her, or forget, and do not have a relationship with her. But I do not lose sleep over it, and if she dies tomorow, I would NOT have any regrets. Like "I should have called" or whatever. Very sad, but very true.

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I've grown certain that the root of all fear is that we've been forced to deny who we are. ~ Frances Moore Lappe