Do you know someone who has to have control in everything she / he does? Do you have a friend who wants to micromanage every little detail of her child's life?

I have a friend that needs to have a schedule for her child from wake until bedtime every single day. She's not very good about rolling with the punches or simply going with the flow!

I used to be the type to have to have a plan A, B and C. It would drive my dh batty, but since moving here to OKC and having him deploy so much and have a completely unpredictable schedule, I have learned to just let go a little. I still wish, though, I had SOME control in my life! ( like say with potty training)

My mil is a little like this. She wants everything to go her way. This doesn't fly when she comes to our house though since dh is the king of his castle (and I am the queen). So, dh and I are always talking about setting up boundaries with her when she comes to my house. For instance, she is not allowed to decorate ANYTHING at our house. She may make something that I approve (like curtains, etc.) but she may not set it up because then everyone gets mad and stressed out. My fil tries very hard to help us with this because he is entirely understanding and awesome.

I wish that she would relax a little. I just don't think it is going to happen. If anything, it will be worse when the babies are born. DH already knows that he is going to have to send her home eventually (we think she will want to move in). But when a control freak starts to take over MY territory, I will not have it. That's what bugs me most about control freaks--when they try to control other people (like me and dh). It is never a healthy thing.

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Yes, I have a relative who is this way. It's so stressful to be around this person because you never know when something will be the way he/she doesn't like and there will be a blow up. Generally I avoid people like this.

People like that usually don't like people like me!

Thankfully none of my family, friends, or really anyone I know is like that.

I am like that, well not as drastically, but I get edgy and moody when I cant control a stiuation I am in. I dont like doing anything on the spur of the moment, and would rather plan exactally what is needed down to to the very last thing.

Drives my dh batty as well. It takes me a long tome to actually let go, and relax if someone else is in control. Which could explain maybe why I think my dh cant drive properly.
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I raise my hand and admit that I too am like this but not to the degree above, a). I don't do it to other people, their lives are their lives. But mine, I have to have a schedule. I have find that in my life I need it or things get forgotten, I have 3 kids, 1 dh, 1 dog, 28 acres of land, work parttime, go to school parttime and I am setting up my own business. I am finding it really hard on 'rostered days off' (I try to have one every couple of weeks) they are family days where we go somewhere as a family and DH has to organise it, I get really antsy and a little stressed, by the end of the day though I'm relaxed and so glad we did it.

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Gosh, this is so me
I know, I know. I can't help it though. I try to make things easier for people without realizing that's borderline controlling. I micromanage every aspect of my life and I do it with the best intentions on tow. Im slowly but surely controlling myself from doing this to other people, though I do it because I really do care. If I didn't im the kind of person that doesn't bother with it and you're pretty much done with me. Its something im working on for sanity's sake.

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That's how I feel too, but it can be hard to avoid them when they are friends. But I totally get what you are saying.

Wow I saw your title and thought you were calling to me...I admit it I am a control freak. I am MUCH better since moving to NC, but I have a NEED to be in control of some things (hello, how many other households does the woman control the remote control?). I say some b/c I AM letting go. I do not micro manage my kids. I do however need a plan. I am not a spur of the moment girl.
Like I said, I have gotten better at it, but DH says I am a bad combination....a high mainteneace control freak

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I'm controlling over my own life, but am much more flexible with the kids and dh. To be honest, I wouldn't wanna try to control someone else - it's hard enough doing it for myself!

My in-laws, especially MIL is very controlling but over the years things have gotten better (avoidance can do wonders!) Problem is, not only is she controlling, but very manipulative about it. I remember talking to her on the phone once, and by the time I hung up, she had my and dh's (no kids yet) entire Fri, Sat, and Sun scheduled with her!! I didn't even realize how she did it! I fumed about 10 minutes, called her back, and reclaimed our weekend!